Sky is the Limit

Resort World Miami set to be unveiled

2011-09-16T08:45:00.005+08:00

Tan Sri Lim Kouk Thai set to unveiled RM 9.3 billion at Miami, Florida. The Genting empire continue to grow and expand. Tan Sri follow his father footstep and went one step higher. The casino license yet to be approve. Malaysian really should proud of themselves and many tychoons make their presence felt.

First Tan Sri Tony Fernandes bought BPL's side QPR and immediately bought host of player and David Beckham is their immediate target by January. Their home jersey carry the 'Malaysia Airline' while away 'AirAsia'. They willl be at KL next summer.

Next, Tan Sri Vincent Tan who own the Wales side Cardiff City. The side don the 'Malaysia' sponsor jersey. Yesterday the Cardiff town welcome Malaysia Beckham, Safee Sali, he stayed at hotel next to training ground and immediately been tried out the next day. Wish him the best before he back to Indonesia Pelita Jaya FC. He will do fine here in South East Asia, honestly.

Ah Jib also announce some exciting news thru radio and television yesterday. Wish Malaysia happy birthday and Malaysia Memang Boleh!

Happy mooncake festival 2011

2011-09-12T21:33:00.003+08:00

Wish everybody a nice mooncake festival n to the kids, time to play angry birds tanglung..hoho.

Thanks God is Friday

2011-09-09T22:53:00.002+08:00

It was indeed lucky Friday. Start the day with Nasi Lemak, lunch Nasi Lemak again. Yet to watch Nasi Lemak 2.0.. Haha. Then when i arrive home at 9pm for dinner, found out my Beemer is not as usual parking spot. The uneasy feeling arise and immediately look for an answer. Both the ladies seem so suprise and thought i was kidding to them. To seek an answer, i back to the carpark on every level and thanks God, its there at one level below.

Clamped and proceed to guardhouse to solve it. Along the walk, selipars give up on me and walk through step by step to settle the clamped tyre issue. God bless, it was solved n kena issue final warning.. Mama, don't worry. Be extra alert next time around. Everybody is safe, the car is safe. Thanks God is Friday:)

Enjoy the weekend.

Veronica Cadence Yeoh

2011-09-07T17:29:00.004+08:00

That's our precious princess name and she is already a Chelsea fan..muahahahaha

I'm Back, Yes I'm back

2011-09-06T22:15:00.003+08:00

Good Evening Bloggers,

Finally i'm back after hibernating myself for some time. I'm a daddy now to my beloved daughter Veronica. She was born on April 21st 2011 at 6.59pm at Kinta Medical Centre. Thanks God for the blessing that she and my wife are both healthy. It was a special feeling when Veron arrive and my tears start to drop when she open her eyes about 5 min she born. Frankly, i had fall in love for the second time in my life.

Daddy got to work hard to ensure the family demand are met continously. To my mom, her wish came true and she is busy again to nurture her beautiful grandchild. Healthy always. To grandpa, he as busy as always, hope you may find some space and time for us and wish you great career ahead.

Make this world a better place to live. As the world is unforgiving, the New Age Principle took over. No more Big Fish ate the Smaller Fish are no longer applicable instead the Faster Fish ate the Slower Fish took over. If you still ponder what is best for yourself, you gotta start your first step Right NOW. Right or wrong, the JUDGE (result) will determine.

Take care.

Jokes of the weekend

2010-01-29T19:00:00.001+08:00

A young man went to his father one day to tell him thathe wanted to get married.His father was happy for him. He asked his son who thegirl was, and he told him that it was Samantha, a girl fromthe neighborhood.With a sad face the old man said to his son,''I'm sorry to say this son but I have to. The girl you want to marry is your sister, but please don't tell your mother.''The young man again brought three more names to hisfather but ended up frustrated because the response wasstill the same.So he decides to go to his mother.''Mom I want to get married but all the girls thatI love, dad said they are my sisters and I mustn't tellyou.''His mother smiling said to him,''Don't worry my son, you can marry any ofthose girls. You're not his son.

Top Joke in Northern Ireland

A doctor says to his patient, 'I have bad news and worse news'.'Oh dear, what's the bad news?' asks the patient. The doctor replies, 'You only have 24 hours to live'. 'That's terrible', said the patient. 'How can the news possibly be worse?' The doctor replies, 'I've been trying to contact you since yesterday'. Top Joke in UKA woman gets on a bus with her baby. The bus driver says: 'That's the ugliest baby that I've ever seen. Ugh!' The woman goes to the rear of the bus and sits down, fuming. She says to a man next to her: 'The driver just insulted me!' The man says: 'You go right up there and tell him off, go ahead, I'll hold your monkey for you.

Top Joke in USA

A man and a friend are playing golf one day at the ir local golf course. One of the guys is about to chip onto the green when he sees a long funeral procession on the road next to the course. He stops in mid-swing, takes off his golf cap, closes his eyes, and bows down in prayer. His friend says: 'Wow, that is the most thoughtful and touching thing I have ever seen. You truly are a kind man.'The man then replies: 'Yeah, well we were married for 35 years.'

Top Joke in England

Two weasels are sitting on a barstool. One starts to insult the other one.He screams, 'I slept with your mother!' The bar gets quiet as everyone listens to see what the other weasel will do. The first again yells, 'I SLEPT WITH YOUR MOTHER!' The other says, 'Go home dad you're drunk.'

Love you always..

2010-01-02T20:28:00.004+08:00

Just back from Genting Highlands with family members. It was an enjoyable trip, got to spend time with each and every of the family members. People said we are one very "weird family" where each and every one of us don't stay together. Thus, very seldom we meet each other.

I travel alot and almost every week to got back ipoh to take care of my business and most importantly my mom. She been alone in the house. Its very pain as she live alone. She derserve more than this. SO, we decided that she will move down to Kl to stay with us. Both me and my brother will company her more often. Pauline also can spend more time with her.

She closed down her furniture business back year 2005 because of health issue. She was fully recovered and we decided its time for her to shut down the business and retire early. She is very smart lady and very independent. Me, Henry and Stephenie are extremely closed to her all this time while my dad got to stay outstation to earn living and support every one of us. He got no choice but to sacrifice to keep us alive all this years.

As we completed our studies, my brother move to Kl and my sis went to Penang to continue her tertiary study. I got to stay in Kl to build my empire with my dad. Thus, i'm very painful to leave my mom in Ipoh. So, i must ensure i travel back every week to home town to company her. I never miss it every single week for past 1 year. That is my commitment.

During the past, a couple can raised 10 childrens and NOW 10 childrens can't take care the parents. I keep this principle in my life. Make sure 3 of us will take care our parents. Never send them to old folks home. Remember, there is always a KARMA.

I'm a tired now after trip back from Genting. I'm extremely pain in my heart and drop to tears when my mom call my in tears. She is unhappy today. Myself, Henry and Stephenie drop to tears. Mom, just forgive and forget. Better tomorrow await you. We all loves you so much. I promise u will never stay alone again. We will be with you forever.

We will take good care of you and ensure you are happy all the times ok...this year we will have our wedding dinner and hopefully with blessing you will become a grandmother soon ok...:)

Don't think so much. We loves you.

Happy New Year.

Happy New Year

2009-12-31T14:56:00.003+08:00

Its the last day of 2009. It also mark the end of the first decade of new millenium. Many people claim that this is one of the toughest decade faced by people. It started with Y2k, then Mad cow disease, SARS, Hurricane Katrina, Tsunami, H1N1, earthquakes and typhoon and many more and Tiger's 14's birdies end the first decade. Many people stay defiant, focus on the goal and overcame the disaster to start new chapter in their lives. Look at Banda Aceh, many people started their business again after tsunami swipe the whole town. They are really tough nuts. Great respect to all of them.

As for myself, it been a learning decade for myself. Start with college education, where i met my first love and she is now my wife. I begin my career in life insurance business when i'm 20 years old and it will be my 8th year in this business. It's a learning curve for me, to learn what is right and what is wrong. To many, it's a shame that i only learn this at age 20's. Should have learn it during primary school.

Thanks to my mentor which is my father. I got to say, you're the best. It's definitely not easy at all. It likes army training everyday. I accepted the challenge and it's been very very tough 365 days for myself. Change yourself if you want a better results, that is a very clear message to me. Day by day, i walk and stumble, walk and stumble, and never give up. I always said i have nothing good or special within myself, but my determination carry me through this 365 days. The determination to prove yourself is the ultimate motivation. Well, when i look back it worth every penny of it.

Along the way, more than 250 very special clients give me tremendous support. You turn my life around. Without any one of you, i will not achieve what i have today. I would like to thanks each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart. I will remember everyone of you forever in my life.

To my family members, i love you all so much. You stand by me when everybody look down upon me. I know is extremely hard when somebody said bad things about their own children. Now, i able to walk again and i will keep my feet well on the ground. We are one family and we will be together forever.

Thanks to all Manulife staffs to give me great assistance all year long. Special thanks to each and everyone of you from Ipoh RSC to PJ RSC and KL HQ.

This year is a very memorable year to remember. Finally, we able to achieve what we can only dream for in the past. It started with Court of the Table (COT), Top Agent 2009, Top Rookie UM 2009, Top Unit Manager 2009, IDA Silver Dragon Award, Top Unit Manager Growth Award, Namlifa Platinum Producer Award, Namlifa Direct Group Award.

Well, it means nothing if we stop right here. Stay focus every minute to ensure achieve what we aim for. Sacrifice your leisure to ensure you get what you really wanted.

Yesterday, my mentor drop me a very educating and meaning message, i share with you guys here. It sound something like this:

"open your heart and mind. U have grown up and will soon be a father urself. U have read so many books. Be wise and fillial. Control ur ego. Take ur customers interest as paramont. Be thankful for what u had achieved. U have been made a champion by all those who help u, big and small. Rejoice and remain humble. Don't spend ur wealth away. Open ur heart to the world"

I will keep this and practice it everyday in my life. I will make you a very proud father one day.

So, lets celebrate the last day of 2009 and welcome the year 2010, the year of Tiger. Hopefully, it will be another exciting year for each and every one of us. May all your dreams come true and bringing dream to life.

----cheers-----

Brand New Toy from Uncle Bayi Singh

2009-11-07T21:26:00.004+08:00

Day of joy and a day to remember. Eleven months of hardwork, dedication and focus and the sadness to let my mom and wife at ipoh to left KL to pursue on my career and tonnes of advice from my dad, uncle bayi singh present me a TOY that i loves so much. BMW 325i. A toy had so much meaning than my previous Toyota Vios. I would like to thanks all my clients, associates, my brother Henry, my sister Stephenie, my Mom and Dad and my beloved angel Pauline. Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

My tears drop non stop since this morning, i felt emotional when i look back my life for the last 11 months when i first arrive at KL.Thanks to my DAD once again, your guidance that money can't buy and i will remember and practice for the rest of my life.

Thanks GOD for your blessing. I will continue to work hard and contribute more to society, I will continue to do alot more charity without any recognition.

Thanks my Mom, your patience and worried about me everyday is gone. You are far more happier now. I love you always.

Thanks Henry and Stephenie, we are siblings forever, keep our relationship intact, stay close and strong together.

Thanks to my angel Pauline, your 9 years of patience with me-i love you forever. Finally we will get our marriage dinner confirm on 23 MAY 2010. Special day to keep in calender.

Thanks Sathiya from Tian Siang for your support on Pauline, i never break promise on you.

Thanks to all my clients and my potential clients, without everyone of you, i will not achieve anything in my life.

Here is snap shot of my BMW 325i

Weekend motivation...

2009-10-17T22:09:00.002+08:00

When I woke up this morning lying in bed, I was asking myself;
What are some of the secrets of success in life?
I found the answer right there, in my very room.

Million $$ questions

2009-10-11T20:37:00.002+08:00

Q: Why are condoms transparent?
A: So that sperm can at least enjoy the scene even if their entry is restricted!

Signboard outside a prostitute's house:
Married MEN not allowed. We serve the needy, not the greedy....

New AIDS awareness slogan:
Try different positions with the same woman instead of same position with different women.

Why is sex like shaving?
Well, because no matter how well you do it today... tomorrow you'll have to do it again...

What will happen if earth rotates 30 times faster?
Men will get their salary everyday and women will bleed to death.

Why do 90% of women have their left breast bigger than the right?
Because 90% of men are right handed.

What is the difference between UNDERWEAR & a STAGE CURTAIN?
When you pull down the STAGE CURTAIN, the show is over, but when you pull down the UNDERWEAR...... it is SHOWTIME!

What is the similarity between a wife and a chewing gum?
Both are sweet in the beginning but become tasteless and shapeless later

Advantages of having an affair with a married women.
They give like hell.
They do not yell.
They do not tell.
They do not swell and there is no wedding bell!

My dad told me that if Adam and Eve were Chinese, we would be still in Paradise . Why? Because they would have eaten the snake instead of the bloody apple!

Thanks GOD!

2009-10-10T22:38:00.003+08:00

After finished up our appointment at 2pm, we start to go home and pack our luggage to drive back to ipoh. We pick up both moms and my brother in law along the way. We have a smooth journey home until we arrive at Slim River, Perak where loud sounds came from the back of the car, we slow down the car on the emergency lane and for safety reason, i went out alone to check out what wrong with the car. Immediately i found out one of the back Run Flat tyre failed.

I cal SOS phone on the roadside and is not working until the Plusline Ronda arrive to assist us. He told us the car need to be towed to BIDOR to get our tyre change. After further discussion, we decided to bring the tyre only to BIDOR and get it replaced.

Gosh, when the tyre removed out from the car, the Run Flat tyre completely burst and the Polis Plusline said we must thanks GOD that saves our lives. As we run on very high speed along the highway, the tyre really saves us. I pray to GOD nothing bad happens to my family members as i alone follow the Police to BIDOR to get new tyre.

After an hour, i finally back to Slim River and fix the new tyre into the position. All my family members is in order and i truly thanks GOD for your blessing. I will keep continue to do ONLY good things in life and help more people. I will keep giving more to people and expect less.

I'm truly tired now after many days of extreme hard work with my wife and thanks to our clients who believe in us and gives us a chance to serve them. Thanks. We will do a good job.

Have a nice weekend. Godnite.

I would like to say thanks to GOD that really saves our lives. GOD bless.

I'm back...

2009-10-09T19:23:00.002+08:00

July since i last blog, i left out the blog in search of true meaning of life and also my career. After months of thought and taught, i understand more about life. We must know what is right and wrong first before we step into the second stage.

In life most of us search for true happiness. What is true happiness? Earn good income that you never earn before? You prove yourself that you can do it as well? or you have good cars or big bangalow? Or travel around the world without having to work? In life, the true happiness came from doing the right thing and a glimpse of smile from your clients and also your beloved family members. For example, a claim cheque deliver to a client is the true happiness in life. The sense of responsibility, work dedication, caring to our customer. You really did a proper job in the right way.

That is what i'm embarking on to search for true happiness. It is a long tough roads in front with many seem not convince, not believing, nor bother about it. To accomplish that journey, we must first really determine to achieve it, only then we able to walk step by step, to defy other peoples criticism, people condemn about you and people start to query about your mission, it is true..you want to do this?

Only you can make the difference. Only you can answer the question. People said once you made a mistake, you tend to wake up and then follow back the same old path again because of their perception. Only you yourself know the answer.

We must be thankful to everybody who help us along the way. Simple word of thanks. However, we must always keep the word thanks deep in our heart and remember them forever. Always believe in KARMA. How you treat people is how they will treat us back.

Be honest, have integrity and be professional in whatever we do. We will never go wrong if we follow this philosophy. Trust is something you need to earn yourself. Keep doing the right thing, and things will be all right. Life is more peaceful and everybody beside you also share the same atmosphere.

Be a Man and live like a man. To everybody, year 2009 is about the end. Make sure, we don't leave anything behind, forward is the way to go. No regret. Make it a successful year. Compete in the most positive and healthy way.

Whatever the outcome or position at the end of the year is not important, what more important you did put in tremendous amount of hard work along the way and do it with honesty, integrity and professionalism. Best of luck to everyone, VAMOS!!!!!!!!

Success the Feng Shui Way

2009-07-25T21:46:00.005+08:00

Hardwork people always become rich people, lazy people definitely poor people: by Joey Yap

Today is Saturday, no half day work but full day work. Early in the morning, went to client's office and meet one of the client. Although i had to wait for him for about an hour, the patience paid off handsomely and the client agreed to invest for his children's education plan. Great way to start a brand new day.

This customer is generous enough as through conversation, i mentioned i will move in to my new house at Puchong Prima in 2 weeks time and he straight away without hesitation gives me a present that i loves very much. Thanks Uncle C T. I will fulfill my promise and responsibility with honesty. I'm just a lucky boy.

Then i spend time to celebrate birthday party at the company. I had satay and cake, very nice indeed. I ate simple nowadays. That how i become slimmer and fitter and have great looks::))

Thereafter i had to rush to Sunway Resort Hotel to meet my new partner, Ruben. We had Joey Yap for company. He shared his success story, how an accounting student graduate become a master in feng shui and become multi millionaire at the age of 32. Magnificent, a standard and benchmark for me and my group of people to achieve. He mentioned we need to work hard everyday and don't waste time on unnecessary things if we really want to change our current lifestyle so as wealth. Lazy people are poor people and no need to seek advice from feng shui consultant.

Then my wife, Pauline, bought Joey Yap's book title "Feng Shui for Homebuyers" personally signed by Joey Yap and we had several photo shots. Lucky girl, hope it will bring more lucks when we move to our new home.

Then, from business to become family man. I brought my wife pauline, Henry and Karen to have dinner at Pavillion. Simple and nice dinner. I'm happy because mom and everybody is happy. My wife of course now more happier person than ever before, she had all the freedom to do whatever or buy whatever she prefer.

I'm a bit tired now but im still very ok. Enjoy your weekend. Take care.

Story to LIVE by

2009-07-11T08:38:00.002+08:00

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

One day,someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' Thegirl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her lifeled her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Today before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someonewho's crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who died too early on this earth.

Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile onyour face and think: you're alive and still around.

Attitude

2009-07-04T07:30:00.000+08:00

1. Attitude is Everything

The process of human change begins within us. We all have tremendous potential. We all desire good results from our efforts. Most of us are willing to work hard and to pay the price that success and happiness demand.

Each of us has the ability to put our unique human potential into action and to acquire a desired result. But the one thing that determines the level of our potential that produces the intensity of our activity, and predicts the quality of the result we receive is our attitude.

Attitude determines how much of the future we are allowed to see. It decides the size of our dreams and influences our determination when we are faced with new challenges. No other person on earth has dominion over our attitude. People can affect our attitude by teaching us poor thinking habits or unintentionally misinforming us or providing us with negative sources of influence, but no one can control our attitude unless we voluntarily surrender that control.

No one else "makes us angry." We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude. What someone else may have done is irrelevant. We choose, not they. They merely put our attitude to a test. If we select a volatile attitude by becoming hostile, angry, jealous or suspicious, then we have failed the test. If we condemn ourselves by believing that we are unworthy, then again, we have failed the test.

If we care at all about ourselves, then we must accept full responsibility for our own feelings. We must learn to guard against those feelings that have the capacity to lead our attitude down the wrong path and to strengthen those feelings that can lead us confidently into a better future.
If we want to receive the rewards the future holds in trust for us, then we must exercise the most important choice given to us as members of the human race by maintaining total dominion over our attitude. Our attitude is an asset, a treasure of great value, which must be protected accordingly. Beware of the vandals and thieves among us who would injure our positive attitude or seek to steal it away.

Having the right attitude is one of the basics that success requires. The combination of a sound personal philosophy and a positive attitude about ourselves and the world around us gives us an inner strength and a firm resolve that influences all the other areas of our existence.

Moral story of the day

2009-06-21T11:22:00.002+08:00

Keep Movin Forward

2009-06-14T09:32:00.005+08:00

After 6 months of hardwork but still not hard enough, this is the day to review and study what went wrong and what went right in the first half. Success is easy to achieve by talking. It is never easy by action. Yet every people on this planet chose to be successful by talking.

To be successful by action, we really require lots of everything from hardwork, passion, right attitude, planning and timing and so many more. When we move forward, there is always obstacles, challenges that try to hinder you from movin forward or even pull you few steps back. This is the most crucial part among others. The ability to counter challenges and stay mentally tough by keep movin one step ahead at a time until we reach our ultimate goal for the year. Many people would have given up by this time citing numerous reasons and excuses.

To stay defiant, we really need to know what is our objectives, why are we work so hard? Work so hard to achieve what? What do you really want to achieve by year end? Once we got this answer comprehensively, then this "distraction" will not stop us from movin forward. We not only need to move but move in a very fast pace manner. The world is not stopping for any second, we got to make every second out of it.

That become a self motivation everyday, no matter what criticism you receive on that day, you know clearly what you want in life, make a super effort to change and defy their criticism. Thats to me is the most effective way to prove to yourself. Always challenge yourself and not challenge others. Only then, we can keep movin forward everyday. Don't compare yourself with anybody, because everyone is unique by themselves.

For me, i will to double my current effort to ensure i achieve my ultimate goal for the year. I never learnt so much as before with passionate guidance from my mentor. I never change so much without him. My work commitment and attitude become even better under him. Thanks so much, results at the end of the year is the best present for him.

Don't let ego that the small results that achieved 6 months ago carry into my head. It is very important to stay focus 200%. Result means nothing if i stop right here right now and start to "enjoy", this is not the right way.

I learnt everyday that if we continue to do good things everyday, good things will come everyday. Keep doing the right things in everything we do. Finally, i must or we must to stay HONESTY, INTEGRITY, AND PROFESSIONALISM if we choose to be successful in our lives.

To be honest, live is very fun when we successful, thus keep working very very hard and make ourselves very very rich. Then life is even doubly fun.

For today sunday, i have full day appointment back in ipoh, not dating, not lunch or dinner gathering but to provide solutions to customer needs. Take care and best wishes.

Break in Life

2009-06-06T07:10:00.002+08:00

Today i will take a day off and have a rest day at Genting with my full family members. Something i always look for in my life. God bless, we will have a family dinner together that i loves so much that was missing for most part of my life.

After months of hardwork but still not hard enough, we decided to have a day off, to recharge battery before continue our battle again next monday. Life is tough, always be prepared mentally and physically.

To become the Champion require lots more effort, dedication, passion, and so much more. I will give my utmost best to ensure i achieve it by year end. That is the greatest gifts to each and every of my family members that loves me so much.

Take care, enjoy your weekend.

COT next..

2009-05-28T06:13:00.002+08:00

Good Morning. It is 5.30am now, fresh from yesterday 8 hours slept. I was exchausted the day before because of work commitment. I never complaint about it because every piece of the sacrifices paid off handsomely.

Now, this is crucial period in my life again, to ensure and remind myself everytime not to let ego control my life and get too excited about something. The war is not finish nor not even half way point. There are still so much work need to be plan, strategize and do to ensure i win the war. Stay focus and continue work dedication and continue to serve all my customers faithfully.

I will go to office soon, now Court of the Table (COT) is the next mission, i promise myself and to my family members, i will do my utmost best to achieve it, something so special that i never ever dreamt about it since i joined this career 7 years ago. Sky is the limit, there is bo barrier to stop you BUT only ourself can stop it. Go all out, make very sure no regret in life. Life is fun...

Once again, thanks to my parents, wife and to all my priviledge customers, sincere thanks from my bottom of my heart. Thanks so much...

take care.

I'm resigning

2009-05-23T23:29:00.003+08:00

Dear all, i'm officially resigning to join uncle bayi singh to travel around the world. The reason is he call me up this morning with his monster truck and presented me with this:

Thanks uncle bayi singh..lets go!!!Don't wait, the world is waiting for us to explore.

The long wait is over...

2009-05-21T19:11:00.004+08:00

Finally, after 7 years the long wait is over, my dream to become a member of Million Dollar Round Table (MDRT) is realized. My heartfelt thanks to each and everyone of my customers that landed me a huge support throughout my career. Thanks again and to my family members thanks..

will continue to work very very hard everyday and to do the right things in life.

honesty.integrity.professionalism is the key in pursuit to become Champion of the Year 2009.

Thanks...

Home on Sunday

2009-05-17T11:27:00.006+08:00

Im back to Ipoh late evening yesterday to spend quality time with my lovely mom and of course my wife. To be frank, i'm a boy who will be home sick everytime. But that the sacrifices that i should and will take to develop my career and continue to pursuit my journey to become Champions this year. I had a flash back while i'm driving alone and i felt emotional in the sense that i really work so hard everyday to pursuit my goal of the year and my journey to become millionaire at very young age.

It really worth it when you begin to see the results start to kickin, it's just the beginning and nothing will be taken to granted. Focus and continue dedication to do the right things everyday is far more important that what had been achieved. Thanks to all my customers that landed me a huge support, thanks so much. I will do my utmost to deliver timely service to all of you.

Nothing really counts if i don't achieve our end results and stop right now and be happy and satisfied with what i have. Thanks to my guru, i have a chance to experience something i never had a chance experienced before, i achieve something i never achieved before, and so many other eye-opening experiences, i treasure and learn from it. Opportunity is not always around, but once it comes, be 200% sure don't let it go.

I will continue to dedicate myself in my career and build strong and sustainable empire. The road will never be smooth so as the sea where it will be as rough as ever, life is not meant to be smooth anyway, it is the courage and self determination that will determine a successful person or vice versa. Don't give up no matter how many criticism it will be directed towards you, take it and move on in our lives. Be tough mentally and be sure what you want in lives and always have a plan that can be execute right now.

May will end in couple of weeks time, time moves as fast as it can, we can't afford any wastage as times mean money. Don't look left and right anymore, straight ahead is the road where we all want to go.

Will back to Kuala Lumpur on tuesday and war will start again. Very challenging, be sure you equipped properly only win is the only solution to the problems.

Enjoy your weekend, as for my guru, he still had couple of appointments today. He is tough machine and will never stop working. Best of luck and see you next week.

Cheers...

Feng Shui Bless Message

2009-05-09T17:42:00.002+08:00

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.
FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much. NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN! .. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze. SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice
TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

god bless and happy mothers day to mom, i love you..

Saturday Jokes

2009-05-09T10:32:00.001+08:00

Government Job

A guy went to the Post Office to apply for a job. The interviewer asked him, 'Are you allergic to anything? He replied, 'yes - caffeine'. Have you ever been in the military service? 'Yes,' he replied.' I was in Iraq for two years.' The interviewer said, 'That will give you 5 extra points toward employment.

Then he asked, are you disabled in any way?' The guy said,

'Yes.... a roadside bomb exploded near me and I lost both of my testicles.' The interviewer said O.K. - You've got enough points for me to hire you right now. Our normal hours are from 8:00 A.M. to 4:00 P.M.

You can start tomorrow at 10:00 A.M. and plan on starting @ 10:00 A..M. every day. The guy puzzled asks, 'if the work hours are from 8 to 4, why do you want me here at 10? 'This is a government job,' the interviewer said.

'For the first two hours, we just stand around drin kin g coffee and scratching our balls.

No point in you coming in for that beacuse you don't have testicles!'

Successful?How to become Successful?

2009-04-17T07:40:00.002+08:00

The word is success is among one of the most favourites words in this society, everybody start to scream, yell, and do whatsoever in talking that they want success and a change in their current lifestyle. The fact remain many of them still be what they are or a little improvement compare to what they have now. Why majority after attending so many motivational courses that claim to be so motivated and powerful that will inspire them to become successful in very near future? There is no problem with the motivational speaker because they are extremely successful or else will not become the speaker, the problem remain with the human being, motivation is just state of mind where it will have a very short memory. The ummp!! factor will not last long if we don't continuously act in positive way to keep the momentum goin.

However, human being who don't have much patience that they can't cope with the pace and tonnes of sacrifices. Everybody sacrifice according to every individual BUT the question is why still not successful? We need to plan, strategize and create the opportunity and many more to win over the business BUT many human just do whatever they have in mind and wait for the problem to araise then only take a look into it.

For example, this morning while i'm driving to office at 6.30am i listen to one young man who claim emotional stress that he only have one last quarter of petrol on his car and need to drive to kl city to work, stress that the petrol will dried up and can't go to work, eventually he managed to get to his destination and now worry bout how he gonna drive back..Why is this happening? Who create the emotional stress and problem? Ain't the human being created this kind of stress? This is simplistic approach to solve the problem. Can't this man just pump RM 20 nearby before drive to kl city to avoid this stress. Ain't the solution simple? But human being is still human being, still like some kind of "excitement" in life that is unneccesary. Imagine, if we are on the way to meet a potential customer and this petrol become an issue? What is the consequences of stop halfway and unable to meet the customer? This is the difference between successful and unsuccessful, there is only a very thin margin that separate both category of people.

I want to successful in my career and life, thus i monitor others and become a reflective mirror to me that certain things i must follow and certain things i must avoid. Few days ago, when i'm back to Ipoh, there is an issue with "small contribution" towards for office maintainance, yet so many objections and reluctant from many parties, i paid rental monthly that i hardly used as i'm in kl and kuching nowadays, BUT a person who said they would like to achieve big this year but spend majority their time discussing on this issue. Time are badly wasted and the cost of time wasting is actually more than "the small contribution which is less than RM 10 monthly". What if you won over the conversation and no more contribution? How much time been lost? People criticize me for actually spoil the "regulation", yes let people criticize and said whatever they want, to be successful we need to dedicate lots of time into our career on how to build more business and continue to prosperevery year.

Ain't that funny when you see on one hand, they scream and yell they want to be successful BUT on the other hand they are allocating majority of the time on this minor issue that eventually this small contribution won't kill them anywhere. Correct me if i'm wrong.

Success is not that hard if we keep focus and doin the right thing all the time and life can be very meaningful and peaceful and spend quality time with your loves one and parents and the rest of the family. When we are successful we can buy whatever we want and eat whatever we want when we can afford everything. Ain't life is beautiful when we are rich and successful, i loves it so much. Yesterday, i'm with my client for lunch at kl city and the BMW 5 series he drove was my main attraction. It really a self automated motivation to me that i will get one myself and work until i can afford it in the shortest time possible. Inspiration is everywhere, just a matter how we perceive it.

Who said if we don't attend motivation courses all the time that we are lacking behind on latest info and we can't be motivated. Only once this year i stop joining after join almost every courses locally and internationally for past 6 years, yet people said i don't behave properly. I have a guru and mentor that i work with hand in hand almost every single day, that is what i wanted for a long long time, personal coach to develop me.

I met many of my clients here in kl and everyone of them are extremely successful, i'm so blessed and lucky to meet them and eventually become my client, continue to do the right thing and we will become as successful as they are. Believe you can do it and Action, stop spending time on unneccesary things and do the right things, we will have what we need in life. Life is short, cherish every moment of it.

May God bless all of us and take care.

Wife and Girlfriend

2009-04-04T15:31:00.001+08:00

Some people say:
Wife is a HARIMAU ...............

Girlfriend is HARI HARI MAHU

And some say:
Wife is like TV, Girlfriend is like Handphone (HP)

At home watch TV, Go out bring HP.

No money, sell TV. Got money change HP.

Sometimes enjoy TV but most of the time play with HP.

TV free for life but HP, if you don't pay, the services will be terminated.

TV is big, bulky and most of the time old but HP is cute, slim, curvy and very portable at any time.

Operational cost for TV is often acceptable but for HP is high and often demanding.

Most Important, TV got remote but HP don't have.

Last but not least.......
TV do not have virus but HP have VIRUS......
Once get it, HABIS LAH.

So better choose TV lah

SUNDAY HUMOUR

2009-03-29T10:26:00.011+08:00

passion for success

2009-03-19T23:12:00.008+08:00

It's been a while since i blog. I just back from work after business discussion with my father and my partner Raymond at coffee shop. Only place where we allow to have dinner until we are successful. Meantime, i just finished up reading Kazuo Inamori - Passion for Success. The author is the founder of Kyocera Corporation, one of the Japan leading entrepreneur. If still unsure about the company, this company is the main sponsor for Reading Football Club in the Barclay's Premiership.

The content of the book is almost similar to any other books that talk about success. The fact remains is that every individual would like to see themselves succeed in their career or life. But yet not many of them really passionate to success. They believe to continue to do the same work again and again and hopefully receive the pay increament at the end of the year or continually hopping from one job to another to seek better paycheck disregard the word "passion".

As for myself, i had been in my career at the 7th year now. Time really moves extremely fast and never stop moving. I had achieve some results in my career back 3 years ago and it really make me "big person" in my company. It seem i'm one of the celebrity and that it what we call "comfort zone" where we totally stop seeking improvement in life and discontinue learning and start to behave which not suppose to be. The danger hole will arrive and waiting for me if i still continue to do what i'm doing.

The ego itself will kill people if we don't manage it properly and it's not easy to handle it in reality until it really hurts you badly. Till then only we start to realize that there was a hole in front and started to plan on how to patch the hole. In reality not many people manage to turn the corner and their life is gone is just a blink of eyes.

If we are so passionate to success, are we ready to admit our own mistake? Not easy at all. But this is the first rule towards the success journey. People besides you will start to admire you that you really admit yourself and now are very much determined to turn the corner to the journey to earn many millions of dollar. Some are touch by it and gives another chance for you to prove yourself and remember opportunity does not come often, once it arrive we got to work very very hard and i put it in my own words which some not disagree which is we got to punish ourselves to the limit when the opportunity arrive. It will not guarantee success but it will gives you a very good chance to achieve success if we prepare to work very very hard and never gives up.

I hardly slept every nite and i spend most of the time travelling to seek new business. It is very dangerous because accident can happen at every corner not within our control. Thus, 1000% efforts, focus and total dedication is needed to the road to success. ONE advantage i have is i have a personal coach and mentor who are equally so fired up to succeed. Listening to him everyday is like listening to Donald Trump everyday. I decided to stop attending motivational courses locally and internationally. I was heavily criticised on making that decisions back in Ipoh. I have decided and i don't bother about the comment anymore. The most important is know what you want and get the best out of it which is the results.

People started to treat and talk to you differently once you achieve some results you never achieve before in life. Yet they are the one who criticized you like nobody when we are in deep deep shit and started to pour tonnes of cold water and even recommend you to change jobs. But today they talk differently and put you up into the sky with the hope that you will share some business ideas with them. The world is so realistic and unfair, accept it and move on in lives. I never ever complaint on anybody, everything happen for a reason and it is only ourselves to blame for own creation. I can said i really accept the fact and admit the mistake, don't ever said sorry but to work damn hard everyday to prove to yourself you are far more better than what i'm currently in order to forgive yourself.

March will end soon and my team of people still continually seek opportunity which Donald Trump said keep creating luck. Luck will come when we are so persistent to seek opportunity in business. The total amount of business we created on the first quarter is equalvalent to 6 years total business. We got to moves on, it will mean nothing if we stop now. We will continually seek opportunity whenever we meet new prospects.

Be humble all the time, there is no whatsover reason to talk big and how good we are, i will continue my father footstep to live humbly forever in my life. Make ourselves rich and stay humble.

In order to pursue success, i realize we cannot only work everyday but we also must reward ourselves from time to time. Only then, we are constantly in full steam and enegectic all the time to do our business. For example, i goes shopping once a month in KL with my lovely wife and we allocate reasonable amount of money to be spend on that day including fine dining at restaurant within the shopping mall. I don't shop if people knows me well but the satisfaction came when i able to make my wife happy. Donald Trump mentioned don't buy quantity and special offer items usually sell at low prices. If we shop, look for quality. When we continue to read Donald's message, he is trying to convey that in business, this will inculcate into a habit in our lives where we seek quality in business and don't satisfy yourself too easily. Constantly demand on ourselves to perform and deliver better compare to yesterday. Habit can't be developed in one day, it tooks time and total dedication. It doesnt mean that if we start to shop quality, then you be sucessful, it is only one part to inculcate a good business habit.

On this saturday, me, father and Raymond will go NorthPort, Klang to collect my car. I would like to thanks to dad who really support his son in difficult time and now his son got BMW- bought from Raymond at very "buddy" price. Thanks Raymond. Definitely i will not boasting around but self satisfaction is awesome. I got another new toy in my life and many many more will be on the way if we focus towards our career.

Lastly, time to get to work, cherish and remember the past, what is far more important is NOW. Do we really want success in life? if YES, don't look left and right anymore, we need POSITIVE ACTION. GAMBATEH!!!

GOODNITE.

Rest in Peace

2009-03-15T20:37:00.003+08:00

As fellow readers of Cakap Tak Serupa Bikin already know that my grandma was pass away peacefully on friday afternoon to meet my grandfather. Thanks to everybody and sincere appreciation for those who attending or not able to attend the ceremony. May God Bless all of you, i'm fine. My job is easy become chauffuer to Tibetian Lama all the time. I become their friend now and hope it will blessed all my family members and continue hard work to ensure my career continue to prosper. Gone the past, remember and cherish, move forward is the only option to continue pursue our ultimate goal in life.

Thanks to Raymond who drive me all the way to airport from Kuching. And to Mr Alex Wong, Please don't get me that hotel anymore ok or else you're fired. Just kidding..!!!

God Blessed.

LIFE HANDBOOK

2009-03-05T13:25:00.002+08:00

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner
like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less
food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Make time for prayer.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what
their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her
mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate
others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems
are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like
algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your
family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:

start your journey to success right here, right now

The New Science of Getting Rich

2009-03-01T15:51:00.003+08:00

Before i went back Ipoh yesterday, i manage to take time off to MidValley Megamall to update my Garmin GPS and it is fantastic after latest update. Then, went to ATM machine to withdraw money for weekend usage and straight head to MPH bookstore. I finish reading my OSHO's books bought in New DElhi, India.

So i bought the book by Wallace D. Wattles title "the new science of getting rich" and i read the entire book this morning. I suprised myself, the reason is that the content was so interesting that you can't even spend time to go washroom.

Below is the summary:

1) No one can live a really complete or successful life unless they're rich.

2) Everyone has the right to be free and unrestricted use of all the things they need for their fullest mental, spiritual, and physical development. Everyone have the right to be rich.

3) The tide of opportunity moves in different directions, according to the needs of the whole and the state of the society, and those who goes with the tide, instead of trying to swim against it, find an abundance of opportunities.

4) The way we do things is the direct result of the way we think about things. And to think what you really want to think is to think TRUTH, regardless of appearance.

5) Competition and Sacrifice is unneccesary and useless. You must rid yourself of the tought of competition. You are "made in the image of the Creator," here to create, not to compete for what is already created.

6) You don't have to take anything away from anyone

7) The desire for riches is simply our own capacity for larger life seeking fulfillment, so nature is friendly to your plans. Everything is naturally on your side. The universe desires you to have everything you want to have

8) "you don't have to drive sharp bargains" means you don't need to deal with them unfairly. You don't have to get something for nothing; rather, you can give everyone more than you take.

9) When you give everyone more in use value than you receive in cash value, you're adding to the life of the world with every business transaction and you don't have to beat anybody in business to get rich.

10) When you fully realize the fact that your desire for the possession of riches is at one with the desire of the supreme power for more complete expression, your faith become invincible.

GRATITUDE

a) Believe that there is one intelligent substance from which all things proceed

b) Believe that this substance gives you everything you desire

c) Relate to that intelligent substance through a feeling of deep and profound gratitude

11) The more gratefully we fix our minds on the supreme source when good things come to us, the more good things we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come. The reason for this is simply that an attitude of gratitude draws the mind closer to the source from which all blessings come

12) To fix your attention on the best is to surround yourself with the best and to become the best. The grateful mind continually perceives good things, which becomes expectation of more of the same, which becomes faith; a deep understanding and knowledge

13) To be rich is to think in the certain way. To think in the certain way, we must be clear and precise. We must form a clear and definite mental picture of what you want; you can't transmit an idea into the substance unless you have it clearly yourself

14) To become rich, all you need is to accomplish your goal so that you know what you want and to want it badly enough that it will stay in your thought.

15) Behind your clear vision must be real intention to realize it, to bring it into tangible expression.

16) To get rich, you need only to use your willpower on yourself

17) If you want to become rich, don't study poverty. Get rich is the way to help the poor. The poor don't need charity, they need inspiration. If you want to help the poor, demonstrate to them they can become rich. BUT first you must become rich

18) Give your attention wholly to riches. Do not focus on any form of poverty, lack or distress

19) An ounce of doing is worth a pound of theorizing

ACTING IN THE CERTAIN WAY

a) you must give everyone more in use value than they give you in cash value

b) forming a clear and distinct mental image of what you want

c) holding fast to your intention to get what you want

d) realizing with grateful faith that you do get what you want

20) By thought, whatever you focus on is brought to you. By action, you receive it.

21) Every day is either successful day or day of failures, and it is successful day that you get what you want. If everyday is a success, you can't fail to get rich

22) Do, every day, all that can be done that day, but don't overwork or rush blindly into your business trying to do the greatest possible number of things in the shortest possible time. Don't try to do tomorrow's work today or do a week's work in a day. It's not the number of things you do but the effectiveness of each separate action that counts as success.

23) A day or two spent in contemplating the vision of what you want and in earnest thanksgiving that you are getting it will bring your mind into such close relationship with the Supreme that you'll make no mistake when you do act

24) The desire for enhancement is inherent in all nature; it's the fundamental impulse of the universe

25) The desire to rule for self gratification has been the curse of the world

26) No matter what profession you're in, if you give increase of life to others and make them aware of that fact, they will be attracted to you, they will support your work, you will fulfill their needs and you will get rich

27) Don't wait for the "ideal" opporunity to be all that you want to be. When an opportunity to be more than you are now is presented and you feel impelled toward it, take it. It's the first step toward an even greater opportunity.

finally, to become rich act now by;

form a clear and definte mental image of the things we wish to have, to do, or to become, and we must hold this image in our thoughts, while being deeply grateful to the Supreme that all our desires are granted to us. If we wish to get rich, we must use our leisure hours comtemplating our vision, in earnest thanksgiving that the reality is being given to us.

wisdom for the day

2009-03-01T15:42:00.003+08:00

do all that you can do effectively everyday, but do it without haste, worry, or fear. Move as quickly as you can, but never hurry. Mistakes come from acting hastily, from acting in fear and doubt, or from forgetting the right motive, which is more life to all and less to none.

Remember: the moment you begin to hurry you cease to be a creator and become a competitor, dropping back to old plane again.

-adapted from "The New Science of Getting Rich" by Wallace D. Wattles

India and Maldives

2009-02-15T20:53:00.011+08:00

after stopover in colombo, sri lanka, we head towards new delhi and maldives for 10 days. below are some memories before i start my work again tomorrow.

pic with Gan,(Agency Manager), Francis Tan(Regional Head), myself, Mohan Raj (Rookie UM) and Pakariasamy (Unit Manager)

sailing with my colleagues

jacuzzi with khor, jack and gan

taj mahal

me and jack and taj mahal

me at winter palace, jaipur, india

mr william singh

with colleagues in heritage village hotel, new delhi

Colombo, Sri Lanka

2009-02-15T20:40:00.004+08:00

on 4th february, on the way to new delhi, india, had a stopover in colombo, sri lanka

water city in colombo

tuk tuk ride in colombo

with jack at dutch church

with jocelyn in dolphin hotel, negombo

Blogging in Maldives

2009-02-11T08:37:00.003+08:00

I,m in Male, Maldives now. I just took me another 3 days before i go back to kuala lumpur. After this, no more whatsoever holidays for me this year until i achieve my target with my mentor and also my dad.

It opens my eye this time while i'm in new delhi, india. i spend six days there. the weather is unpredictable cold and hot. The expenrience there remind me how hard i have to work and how much i must earn to create wealth in our lives. The level of poeverty is still quite high here. I might have to stop indian food for quite some time when i'm back to malaysia, to be honest. Anyway, only left is memnory and got to leave it behind and surge forward. I miss my parents, my dad and mom, pauline and my siblings.

The other something great is that i finished 2 books during this trip, Paolo Coelho- Flowing Like River and Confucius Says..books. I bought another 2 books in new delhi. Will finish it here before i go back home.

Thanks Pauline to look after my business while i'm here. I'll be back Saturday to continue what have been left out.

take care.

HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR

2009-01-24T00:16:00.001+08:00

Wishing all of you happy chinese new year, may all dreams come true and stay prosperous. Gong Xi Fa Cai.

Marriage Cycle

2009-01-10T09:56:00.002+08:00

Those who are already married may take it as a guide to improve your marriage & relationship ...DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How do I know if I married the right person?'I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.Here's the answer.EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades....... .It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marrythe right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria ofthe love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someoneelse. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation afew years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor oflove.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.

You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specificthings you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with yourmarriage..Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exerciseprogram makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make love'. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'.. . Not just a feeling. Remember this always:'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide whoyou let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

New Year once again...

2009-01-04T00:21:00.004+08:00

Its 2009, and time is clicking very fast and time for everybody to make a new resolution, new goals, new dream and so much more that everyhope hope to achieve. Looking back, 2008 is very memorable and time to wake up for myself. I enjoyed some "success" for past 2 years and achieve some results in my career but i enjoyed it when i thought i have already succeeded.

Thus, already battle the war alone for past 6 years, i felt i had much more to achieve and in quick time, can't afford to let time past without achieving anything. i had my dad to be my mentor and gosh, its tough at the begginning, had to adjust myself and i learn not only in business but how to handle myself well.

It is fun to work together with him who are damn passionate in his career and i had to salute him. I will deliver my utmost dedication, delegation, passion, to my career. To my beloved wife, you sacrifice alot for me for past year and not to disrespect others, not much women out there do what you do for me, i know is not enough but to deliver the kind of results that bring more wealth and values only the way to reward. I will work damn hard and smart to ensure we had better lives this year, nothing less can be accepted.

Mom, i will become good boy under dad guidance, don't worry as u got works need to do from now on rather than stay at home, stay healthy..i love you.

Hey, gone are the past, now look forward and i had make my New Year Must Achieve Resolution..

This afternoon, while had lunch with colleague, i make a commitment with my ever passionate colleague, Cheng Cheng, to become 2009 MRDT member. I had talk enough but to prove myself i can step to another level in my career. During past days, i want to do but not enough action, always stop and go and wasted lots of time. This morning, Unit Manager, Lee Lai Ling had given me the 2009 MDRT production goals and it is RM 460,000 FYP. Hereby, i accepted the challenge from Cheng Cheng to become MDRT.

Next, i would like to have my car in the second half of the year, earlier i had placed booking for 2.4V Toyota Camry but later withdraw after accepting my dad advice. Now, here is my dream car..

Dad, i remember the words you said to me while we are in Kuching, i wil work hand in hand with you and for you to see own son to ride his way to the top podium to receive the Champion trophy for the year 2009. Nothing is impossible if we are determined to succeed.

Then, before the year end, will have a simple yet memorable wedding dinner that you won't forget. Don't worry, if i achieve what im suppose to achieved this year, my dad won't object as long as we don't waste unneccesary money. Then, you can have all the freedom at new home ok.

Happy New Year to my millionaire partner, Raymond, no more countdown ok, no more kiki lala, shared the same dream together and achieve our success within one year..

Also not to forget my other millionaire partners, Alex, Julia, Siti, Chang, Justina, Jasmine, Pauline, my beloved parents, best wishes to everybody.

Management Lesson

2009-01-01T17:49:00.002+08:00

What you plant is what you reap.

A successful business man was growing old andknew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business. Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children,he decided to do something different. He called all the youngexecutives in his company together.He said, 'It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO.I have decided to choose one of you. 'The young executives wereshocked, but the boss continued. 'I am going to give each oneof you a SEED today - one very special SEED. I want you to plantthe seed, water it, and come back here one year from today withwhat you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will thenjudge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will bethe next CEO.'One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others,received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife thestory. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he plantedthe seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it hadgrown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives beganto talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow. Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.

Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing. By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn't havea plant and he felt like a failure.Six months went by -- still nothing in Jim's pot. He just knew hehad killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, buthe had nothing. Jim didn't say anything to his colleagues, however.He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil - He so wanted theseed to grow.A year finally went by and all the young executives of the companybrought their plants to the CEO for inspection.Jim told his wife that he wasn't going to take an empty pot.But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sickto his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing momentof his life, but he knew his wife was right. He took his empty potto the board room.

When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the varietyof plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful --in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor andmany of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his youngexecutives.Jim just tried to hide in the back. 'My, what great plants, trees,and flowers you have grown,' said the CEO. 'Today one of you willbe appointed the next CEO!'All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room withhis empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him tothe front. Jim was terrified. He thought, 'The CEO knows I'm afailure! Maybe he will have me fired!'

When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happenedto his seed - Jim told him the story. The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim,and then announced to the young executives, 'Behold your nextChief Executive Officer! His name is Jim!' Jim couldn't believe it. Jim couldn't even growhis seed.'How could he be the new CEO?' the others said.Then the CEO said, 'One year ago today, I gave everyone in thisroom a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it,and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds;they were dead - it was not possible for them to grow.

All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants andflowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, yousubstituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was theonly one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot withmy seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the newChief Executive Officer!'

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation
* If you plant faith in GOD, you will reap a harvestSo, be careful what you plant now;it will determine what you will reap later.

'Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back'

Merry X'MAS mates...........

2008-12-25T20:49:00.002+08:00

It's Merry X'mas again, time past so fast, year after year,....best wishes and may santa claus brings more luck to us each day...HO!HO!HO!..

p/s Raymond..u owe me a drink in Kuching..don't forget,

Chang, more good food in s'wak ok

Think Big, The Trump Way to Success

2008-12-13T20:30:00.002+08:00

I just back from Kuching recently and I got a pleasant gift from Raymond. He bought me a book by Mr Donald Trump, "THINK BIG". I love the title very much and very much associated to my current business. In return to say thanks to Raymond is to finish reading the entire book and i just finished in record time, 2 days. It is my own record time and i found that human can do whatever they want if they are focus and committed to do it.

Well, here are some points that i would like to share with you all that i learn from this book:

1) Getting rich is tough, and people get hurt. You have to be as tough as nails and willing to kick as if you want to win.

2) Passion towards your job. Don't think about how you can make money. Instead think about what you can produce or what service you can offer that is valuable and useful to people and to your community.

3) Your word is golden, shaking hands with someone means you are making a deal

4)Develop your gut instinct and act on them. You will have your biggest successes when you go with your gut. Nobody knows everything.

5) Create your own luck. Luck does not come often enough. So when it does, be sure to take full advantage of it, even if it means working very hard. When luck is on your side it is not the time to be modest or timid. It is the time to go for the biggest success you can possibly achieve. That is the true meaning of thinking big.

6) Get the best people to work for you and don't trust him. If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.

7) If you are worried about being liked, you are in trouble. It is more important to be respected and feared than to be liked by employees.

8) Give people to opportunity to excel. Do not be too hard when they make mistakes; everyone makes mistakes. Always be willing to give someone who wants to do better a second chance.

9) In life, you have failures, and there is really nothing wrong with that, but when you have a failure, try not to blame other people.

10) Keep up with the momentum that you have created. To get momentum, you must first focus on a specific goal with passion and intensity. Your problem can be temporary if you keep your momentum moving forward. Again, it is all in how you look at things and how you define your situation.

11) Sometimes things happen that make you question whether you should keep going. As long as you are enjoying what you are doing and are making progress, keep going.

12) Don't let your eye off the ball. Things cannot and will not continue downward forever; they will always turn around. Think about all the good things you are going to do in life. Keep focused on your goal and never give up. Besides, bad times bring great opportunities.

13) Your road to the top will have a great number of detours, changes in direction, twists and turns. Expect an exciting, adventorous ride on your way to the top. It is interesting, it is fun, and it is definitely not predictable!

14) Adopt a big attitude to go with your big thinking. Everything you do in life, do with attitude. You are what you think you are. Ditch your doubts as it leads to failure.

15) Be choosy about your friends. Only hang out with people who truly want you to be successful

Confidence is a Habit

2008-12-10T07:25:00.000+08:00

When we get into the assertive habit, our automatic response to interpersonal situations is a feeling of confidence. As a result, we handle them with calm assurance and feel great. Confidence breeds confidence. If you want to get the same assertive habit, learn how to respond confidently to the following situations.
1. Handling Praise. It is natural to feel pleased when we are paid a compliment from people we care about but we should always remember that they are only the views of others and that such views can always change.
To handle compliments confidently, keep in mind these points...* watch for signs of praise-addiction. Praise is nice but it should not be necessary for our own self-esteem.* thank people simply. Don't dismiss it when someone offers you praise, however sincerely you believe it was meant.* use the technique of positive assertion and positive enquiry to find out what other people liked, so you can do more of it.
2. Handling Criticism. Criticism can hurt when it is expressed insensitively: "...I've only one criticism to make" or unskillfully: "...that was rubbish!"; or comes from people whose admiration we crave. When we are harshly criticised, it is tempting to either hit back at the critic or find someone else to blame. If we do neither of these, we may end up blaming ourselves and feeling bad.
The confident response to criticism is to...* get it straight in your head that this is only someone else's opinion. You can't make people like you.* take a wider view. Ask yourself how things will look in a month's time.* go to "the gallery". This is a place off-stage where you can consider what was said dispassionately.* try to swallow your pride and learn something from the criticism. You can do this by using the technique of negative enquiry and assertion.
3. Saying No. We all find ourselves occasionally in situations where we say "Yes" to others when we really want to say "No": the boss who uses the willing workhorse; the mother-in-law who invites herself to stay; the friend who insists on buying you another round. You may think you are being "nice" by going along with their request but the chances are they won't see it that way and will simply impose on you again. You have exposed your weakness for them to exploit.
Reacting angrily to what you might see as an unreasonable request is equally inappropriate. It may result in you being seen as hostile. In the workplace an angry refusal to do a piece of work may brand you as being un-cooperative. The only viable solution that does not upset others or make you feel bad is the confident one of saying No.
4. Overcoming Shyness. Overcoming shyness and acquiring poise requires a confident way of thinking together with the techniques of social manners. To learn the art of social poise?* make the first moves when you are in new surroundings; don't wait for others.* look relaxed and if you're not, make out you are* prepare by finding out who the guests are, what topics are likely to be of interest...then forget everything while you focus on them.* stay in low key, don't hog the conversation.* if you are being introduced to people who are on an equal social footing to you, mention what you have in common.* if you are being introduced to someone of a higher social status, stay neutral.* get genuinely interested in others whoever they are.* learn the tactic of freeing yourself from one person and joining another without causing upset.
5. Admitting You?re Wrong. It is fear of the consequences of "owning up" that leads many unassertive people to hesitate about admitting mistakes. Some of the irrational self-talk that takes place in the unassertive person is: "I must be perfect at all times" or "If I admit my mistakes, I'll lose my chance of promotion" or "They won't like me any more" or "I'll look bad in their eyes"
To confidently admit a mistake...* remind yourself of your right not to be perfect* own up as quickly and as simply as possible* apologise if the mistake has caused anyone any problems; if not, still apologise out of courtesy. Apologise once and leave it at that.* ask others for help to solve the problem* share the responsibility for putting things right.
6. Getting In Touch With Your Views. The aggressive and passive points of view see the world as hostile and competitive. Other people are there to be beaten or to beat us. The consequences of this view of the world is that we continually compare ourselves to others. In the aggressive stance, we seek to prove that we are better than others or, in the submissive mode, that they are better than us. The result is that we devalue our thoughts and feelings, believing that what others think or feel is more, or less, important than what we think or feel. We often make decisions about others according to their rank, status or position. The confident person makes no such value judgments. He or she gets in touch with their own point of view and expresses it openly and honestly.
7. Raising Your Self-Esteem. We are all children of the universe, born equal and with the same assertive rights. Our self?esteem does not change because of who we are with or because of what we do. We each have the assertive right to get in touch with our own views and opinions and express them.
* don't be overawed by others, no matter how loud they are, or what position in life they hold.* see yourself and others as being worthy in your own right, not because of what you do.* surround yourself with people who value you for who you are.* find a way to tune in to your own views. Don't feel you have to have a special, witty, clever, novel or trendy view. No view is also a view.* practice articulating both positive feelings and negative feelings.* find out which forms of expression you are best at.
Learn to apply these different responses in your own situations with other people and in time you will discover that you have mastered the valuable art of confidence.

Thought for Today

2008-12-09T07:27:00.002+08:00

Be Nice to Others, coz time will tell the difference

One day
You may not be
:
the BIG dog
anymore!!

The success Fact

2008-12-02T21:25:00.001+08:00

There is a lot of confusion as to what exactly success is.

First, 'success' is different for each person.

Your idea of success is just as valid as my idea of what success is.

We have that right, to decide. What is success.

It kills me though that there are a lot of beliefs people hold that keep them from getting even their version of success.

So, for your reading, and pondering, pleasure, here are a few of the real facts about success.
Some of them aren't pretty :-)

Fact: Success looks a lot like work.
Fact: Work can be fun -- even easy.
Fact: You don't have to be beautiful.
Fact: You don't have to be a genius.
Fact: You don't have to be 'born with a gift.'
Fact: You don't have to be born rich.
Fact: You don't need more discipline.
Fact: You DO need a precise and easy to follow structure.
Fact: Success and Luck share this in common; Neither are ever 'found'. Both are prepared for and created.
Fact: Only you can decide what you really want.
Fact: Only you can decide why you must have it.
Fact: Only you can define what success means to you.
Fact: You must decide that you are responsible for your life.
Fact: You must decide specifically what you want.
Fact: You must decide specifically when you want it.
Fact: You must decide specifically the steps you need to take.
Fact: You must decide that you must succeed.
Fact: You must be willing to accept success when it comes.
Fact: You must take action.
Fact: You are not alone.

Christmas Carol...

2008-11-27T13:44:00.002+08:00

You'd better watch out
You'd better not cry
You'd better keep cash
I'm telling you why:
Recession is coming to town.

It's hitting you once,
It's hitting you twice
It doesn't care if you've been careful and wise
Recession is coming to town

It's worthless if you've got shares
It's worthless if you've got bonds
It's safe when you've got cash in hand
So keep cash for goodness sake, HEY You'd better watch out

You'd better not cry
You'd better keep cash
I'm telling you why:
Recession is coming to town!

Finance products are confusing
Finance products are so vague
The banks make you bear the cost of risk
So keep out for goodness sake,

OH You'd better watch out
You'd better not cry
You'd better keep cash
I'm telling you why:
Recession is coming to town.

Im Home after a Tough Day

2008-11-24T20:40:00.003+08:00

Hi brothers and sisters, im just back home approximately 8.30pm. It might still early but my mind was exchausted. Last nite i really did not slept much because my mind was working hard as i already anticipated a lot of tasks need to be done. During day and nite time on sunday, i was planning my work for today, think of the "words" to speak to my customers so not to hurt them.

Well, since i anticipate a tough day for today, i woke up at 6.45am as usual. Before i went to office, i make time to pray Kuan Yin at my wife house for blessing. I promised Kuan Yin that i work very hard everyday and i never let "her" dissapointed. I arrived office at 8am and used to be the first one in office and quickly began with my paperworks. The paperwork was really a bulk of it, always never get done, unfortunately the agency clerk cabut already, and when i logon to my company portal, it was system done. Shit, can't do anything about it, no complaint but to report to HQ as soon as possible and i manage to get it done after lunch. My boss seem so happy about it, got somebody to do the job for him.

Then, i called up my customer where his nephew admitted to General Hospital yesterday, he was a young man, honestly i never met him before yet he is my customer, his uncle used to deal with me and paid for his premium. This young man never back home to Tapah and was met with accident at about 4am according to police report and fell down to nearby drained and left coma. Then, his friends who went along him never wait for ambulance to arrive and sent his buddy to Hospital Ipoh by motorcycle, unbelievable.! He had an operation at about 8am yesterday to remove the blog clog inside the brain. The operation was successful and was sent to ICU for monitoring. He had about 100 relatives and friends outside the ICU, gosh, until u can't breath, so many of them. Then today, his uncle asked me to prepare transfer his nephew to private hospital, and i prepared but his uncle said not for time being citing the NEUROSERGEON fly all the way from KL to treat him and was one of his father best buddy. What a small world, thus i continue with my work.

Next, i have to prepare a customer who would like to meet me at my office, tell you something, in insurance, when customer come to your place usually not a good news, that what i encounter for the, past 6 years, so true it was piece of bad news. The customer came with all her family members meet me at my office, i already prepared all the documents to answer her objection and to satisfy her. She have some doubts about her investment linked policies and went to Ipoh RSC to seek clarification. The answers by the staff make her so worried and immediately call me and scold heavily by her. I stay cool, calm all the time during the tele conversation and arrange for a face to face meeting. i invite her to come to my office and she did make herself available today and we spend about 1 hours in discussion. I explained everything again to her together with hard facts, she was impressed with me and my tone voice was humble all the time, never raise my voice everytime. Done, she was smiled all the way and decided to continue the policy that she bought, i was so happy about it, all the "thinking" on sunday did not waste at all.

Once done, i went to collect premium at customer place and then Agency Director would like to meet me on my business plan as Unit Manager and we discussed about 2 hours. Then, im so tired but i have to be at OLYMPIA COLLEGE about 6.30pm to meet some of the students to assist them in writing thesis. But i arrived at 7.30pm, an hour late, i got to apologize to them and manage to guide them smoothly. I stop lecturing for a while coz i really don't have much time in my timetable and to be honest during my lecture days, im so popular among the students and almost everyone would like me to become their research supervisor. However, im only allowed to have 6 students maximum, left many of them dissapointed.

At 8.30pm im done, my mind blanked and i have to be back coz my mom always wait for me dinner and we chat during the dinner. I asked her to help me to buy bus ticket to KL on thusday to meet my dad. While im blogging, my mom went to my room and informed me that my brother Henry and his gf Karen got a new job which introduced by my dad and a good pay also. Hey bro, remember to treat your DAD a good lunch, he work so damn hard everyday, don't let him dissapointed ok. I will do the same.

Ok, im so tired, will go to bed soon..take care.

Have a nice day.

Quote of the Day

2008-11-24T10:05:00.001+08:00

" Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So - if you give her any crap, you will receive a ton of shit. " Love and appreciate all the women in your life.

best wishes for the day...my timetable was pack for today, best of luck!!!

Ducks Quack and Eagle Soars

2008-11-20T11:53:00.004+08:00

A real classic........a little something I would like to share with you :)

Ducks Quack, Eagles Soar.....................

No one can make you serve customers well. That's because great service is a choice. Harvey Mackay, tells a wonderful story about a cab driver that proved this point. He was waiting in line for a ride at the airport. When a cab pulled up, the first thing Harvey noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for Harvey .

He handed my friend a laminated card and said: 'I'm Wally, your driver. While I'm loading your bags in the trunk I'd like you to read my mission statement.' Taken aback, Harvey read the card. It said: Wally's Mission Statement: To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment. This blew Harvey away. Especially when he noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean! As he slid behind the wheel, Wally said, 'Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf.' My friend said jokingly, 'No, I'd prefer a soft drink.' Wally smiled and said, 'No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, water and orange juice.' Almost stuttering, Harvey said, 'I'll take a Diet Coke.' Handing him his drink, Wally said, 'If you'd like something to read, I have The Wall Street Journal, Time, Sports Illustrated and USA Today.' As they were pulling away, Wally handed my friend another laminated card.. '

These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you'd like to listen to the radio.' And as if that weren't enough, Wally told Harvey that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for him. Then he advised Harvey of the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he'd be happy to chat and tell him about some of the sights or, if Harvey preferred, to leave him with his own thoughts. 'Tell me, Wally,' my amazed friend asked the driver, 'have you always served customers like this?' Wally smiled into the rear view mirror. 'No, not always. In fact, it's only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard the personal growth guru, Wayne Dyer, on the radio one day. He had just written a book called You'll See It When You Believe It. Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself.

He said, 'Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don't be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.'' 'That hit me right between the eyes,' said Wally. 'Dyer was really talking about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes. I put in a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more.' 'I take it that has paid off for you,' Harvey said. 'It sure has,' Wally replied. 'My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year.

This year I'll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don't sit at cabstands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine. If I can't pick them up myself, I get a reliable cabbie friend to do it and I take a piece of the action.' Wally was phenomenal.

He was running a limo service out of a Yellow Cab. I've probably told that story to more than fifty cab drivers over the years, and only two took the idea and ran with it. Whenever I go to their cities, I give them a call. The rest of the drivers quacked like ducks and told me all the reasons they couldn't do any of what I was suggesting. Wally the Cab Driver made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like ducks and start soaring like eagles..

How about us? Smile, and the whole world smiles with you.....The ball is in our hands!

Class with Warren Buffet

2008-11-15T21:52:00.002+08:00

There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:

1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!

2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha , that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.

4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.

5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.

6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money. Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.

8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.

9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.

His advice to young people:

"Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and Remember:

A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B. Live your life as simple as you are.
C. Don't do what others say, just listen to them, but do what makes you feel good.
D. Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which you feel comfortable.
E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on things that you really need.
F. After all it's your life, then why give others the chance to rule your life."

Relatioinships as a Busy Street

2008-11-15T21:45:00.002+08:00

In looking at your life, do you feel as if you're standing in the middle of a busy street and noisy traffic is careening all around you? You're so busy avoiding the chaos, you don't take the time to understand your entrapment.

But if you make your way out of the traffic by stepping up on the curb, you can observe all the movement and see that no matter how busy the street, there are clear areas -- breaks in the traffic. Next, imagine yourself going up to the fourth floor of a tall building and looking down upon the street. It looks different from here. There is direction and flow. And from this perspective it does not have much to do with you. It is just going on.

And if you go on up to the top of this tall building and look down you will see that the traffic is simply patterns. From here you can see other streets that are part of the patterns. Areas of difficulty, where the traffic gets stuck, are just part of the whole -- not good or bad, just part of life.

The more self-actualized you become, the more you can appreciate the flow, and jam-ups, and patterns as what is. You learn to become a witness of life, without getting caught up in the drama. This is learning to be in the world but not of it. From this perspective, you can see the confusion for what it is, and return to the street in the middle of the traffic without being affected by it.

Immigration Security Check

2008-11-05T15:51:00.000+08:00

Airport security event Immigration Official :

'May I know your name?'

Passenger : 'Batman'

Immigration Official : 'What's your name!?'

Passenger : 'My name is Bat-man'

Immigration Official: 'Trying to be funny!? What's your surname?'

Passenger : 'Super-man'

Immigration Official : 'So you're telling me your name is Batman Superman?'

Passenger : 'Yes'

Immigration Official : 'Arrest this guy...'

When they had him in custody, he was asked to show his identification card:

Beckham head for Italian Pizza...

2008-10-31T08:42:00.001+08:00

David Beckham will have only two months to make an impact at AC Milan after clinching a loan move to the Serie A giants on Thursday. The 33-year-old England midfielder will join Milan on January 7 and could make his debut four days later away to Roma.

David Beckham's presence failed to inspire Galaxy to great things during the MLS this season.
But he must return to the Los Angeles Galaxy by early March, to prepare for the Major League Soccer season, which is expected to start on March 19. All parties concerned are content with the terms of the deal, which was struck in Milan a week earlier than anticipated.

Milan director Umberto Gandini told Sky Sports News: ''The deal will be as long as David wishes. I think his commitment to MLS and Los Angeles Galaxy will take him back after a couple of months. I think he will have to go back to Galaxy by the time the MLS starts, and training before that.''

To Be Success You Must Think Success

2008-10-28T15:35:00.000+08:00

You must know the type of the person who has the Midas touch. That person who, no matter what they do, come out smelling of roses. They don't work particularly harder than anyone else, they just seem to have that knack of 'striking gold'. Opportunities seem to come their way and, to be fair, they know how to make the best of them.

Other people seem to struggle financially no matter what they do. They may be able to make ends meet, but enjoying greater comforts in life, seems beyond their reach. No matter how hard they work, they cannot seem to break this cycle. They wonder why is it so hard for them to prosper financially, while it seems so easy and for others. What does the first type of person have that the second type doesn't?

The first type of person simply believes that they should be wealthy, and sees no reason, or problem why they should not be. This quality sounds quite simple, but it is actually very rare when you think about it.

Most of us are brought up to believe that if you work hard in your education, work hard in your job, then invest your money wisely, you will prosper financially. At school we are all told this. However you must ask yourself how many people become really wealthy because of their job? Some, but not many. Most people in employment, even with good jobs, are still dependant on that job. Employers will never pay you enough to be financially secure - if they did this, you would not work for them. Most people are paid just over what they need. I have heard of the term J.O.B. - Just Over Broke! Why are we told this then? Could it be that we are being manipulated? At school, children are never encouraged to start up their own businesses, or to take risks, but I digress.

The reasons for our financial struggles are buried deep within our subconscious minds in the form of our ideas and our beliefs. Many people deep down have an ingrained belief that if you have money it somehow makes you a bad person. They believe that the less money you have, the more spiritual and a good person you are. An over attachment to material things certainly could make it more challenging to progress spiritually. However it is also challenging to consider your spiritual wellbeing and the wellbeing of others around you if you are constantly worrying about your financial situation.

Probably for thousands of years, the only people who benefited from the idea that poverty is a noble thing are those who wanted to control others. The feudal lords through to today's large corporations all know this. It is much easier to control people who need your help, than those who have all their financial needs met. Ask yourself honestly how much has struggling to make ends meet ever benefited you or your family.

Many people also have an ingrained belief that making money is hard, and that they have to suffer for it, or that they have to struggle for it. They will have been told this many times, by their parents, at school, and those around them. They consequently live their lives, and made their decisions based on this. Two problems then arise because of this mindset. Either the person does not try to make big money because they believe it is too difficult, or they choose to make money, but do it the hard way, and either give up, or content themselves with making a little. Simply believing that you can make money without working yourself to the bone, opens up this possibility.

Many of these limiting beliefs are also inherited by the family. Your parents may tell you many times through your impressionable childhood days that making money is too difficult, and rich people are bad etc. They were probably told the same by their parents, who were told the same by their parents. And if you are not careful, you could pass this same negative mind set about money down to your children. If you don't owe it to yourself, then don't you at least owe it to your children to allow them to think freely, in a way that allows them to build wealth, should they choose to? The best way is to lead by example. Allow yourself to dream, and work towards that dream.

Some people are used to living with a victim state of mind. They may feel uncomfortable with the idea of taking responsibility for their lives. That idea may scare them because they cannot then use any excuses, cannot blame anything else. Some people have been brought up with a belief that a "poor me" attitude will bring them certain benefits. If they appear to be suffering, people will care for them because they feel sorry for them. However people will only help you a certain amount. If you want the good things in life, then you must be prepared to take responsibility for your actions, whether things are going well or not, and work towards getting them.

The final barrier to your financial success may be down to fears about what happens when you do have money. You may fear being harassed by so called 'friends'. You may fear having to deal with financial institutions in order to look after your money. You may even fear that you cannot handle wealth. However life is not all about money. You should become financially wealthy not just because of money, but because of the qualities you need to develop within yourself in order to become financially wealthy. Whilst building up your empire, you will learn how to deal with people trying to take your money. You will learn how to deal with financial institutions, and how to handle it. It takes time to make lots of money, but it certainly can be done. What you learn whilst doing this, will prepare you for this type of lifestyle. And if you have been clever and worked hard, you will automatically respect this money, as you know the effort you put in to achieve it. The real worry is for those who suddenly come into a lot of money, such as winning the lottery, or a large inheritance. These people may still have all the limiting beliefs, and have no idea what to do with the money. Their subconscious mind will make decisions that will sabotage this wealth, unless they quickly change their mindset. How many times have you heard about someone winning the lottery, spending all the money over a relatively short space of time, and then saying they wished they never won it in the first place? That is because they simply did not have the time to develop themselves to be able to handle this wealth, and so their minds acted in a way to make them 'comfortable' again - comfortably poor!

So there you have it, by simply changing your mind set, you can give yourself a lot better chance of attaining wealth and success. You can remove the mental barriers and then be able to really work towards the financial success that you deserve. Hypnosis can help you achieve this quite quickly and easily. I'll bet you that if you removed all the wealth from someone like Bill Gates, he would quickly bounce back, should he choose to. He would not sit back and make excuses and think 'What is the point, it'll all go wrong anyway'. He would go out there and make things happen, because he believes that he can make things happen. Believing that it can be done is half the battle. Without the belief, you are never going to take the actions necessary to make it happen.

30th Annivesary Jokes

2008-10-21T22:24:00.003+08:00

When Bill and Hillary C. first got married, Bill said, I am putting a box under our bed. You must promise never to look in it.' In all their 30 years of marriage, Hillary never looked.

However, on the afternoon of their 30th anniversary, curiosity got the better of her and she lifted the lid and peeked inside. In the box there were 3 empty beer cans and $1,874.25 in cash. After dinner, Hillary could no longer contain her guilt and she confessed, saying, 'I am so sorry.

For all these years I kept my promise and never looked in the box under our bed. However, today the temptation was too much and I gave in. But now I need to know why do you keep the empty cans in the box?' Bill thought for a while and said, 'I guess that after all these years you deserve to know the truth.

Whenever I was unfaithful to you, I put an empty beer can in the box under the bed to remind myself not to do it again.'Hillary was shocked, but said, 'I am very disappointed and saddened, but I guess after all those years away from home on the road, temptation does happen and I guess that 3 times is not that bad considering the number of years we've been together.'

They hugged and made their peace. A little while later, Hillary asked Bill, 'So why do you have all that money in the box?' Bill answered, 'Well, whenever the box filled up with empty cans, I took them to the recycling center and redeemed them for cash.'

Life move so fast

2008-10-19T17:37:00.004+08:00

Good friends are like stars...

You don't always see them, but you know they are always there...

"Remember yesterday, dream about tomorrow, but live today"

How Quickly the years pass...

Life is Short, Break the Rules...

Forgive quickly, kiss slowly,

Love truly, laugh uncontrollably

and never regret anything that make you smile

What makes entreprenuer successful?

2008-10-14T08:40:00.001+08:00

The field of information marketing has opened doors to limitless opportunities for lucrative online, home-based businesses. Yet, according to the Small Business Association more than half of all new businesses still continue to fail. There are many reasons why new businesses fail to succeed. But the biggest reason is unsuccessful entrepreneurs fail to take action. Many entrepreneurs face too many distractions, a lack of knowledge, competing priorities, poor planning and time management issues, to name a few.

1. Good is Good Enough
Knowing when to stop trying to achieve perfection is an important part of speed implementation. Trying to be perfect is near impossible and, in the mean time, someone else is capitalizing on your idea. Sometimes it's ok to learn from mistakes as you go.

2. High Payoff Focus
Understanding the difference between a distraction and a high payoff opportunity is like money in the bank. Focus your time and energy on the things that get you results quickly.

3. Power Planning
By creating a written plan and strategy for success, you will be able to identify weaknesses and potential roadblocks. This will also help you delegate to others. Create a checklist and a timeline for when tasks need to be done. Find ways to delegate to others, and research opportunities to use outside resources that will reduce the time you spend on tasks like billing, website updates and fielding of phone calls. Interns, stay-at-home moms and retirees can make great part-time team members.

4. Speed Decision Making
Flip-flopping, procrastinating and dragging your feet will only sap your momentum. Gather important information such as:
- How much money will it cost?- How much time will it take?- How do I make my money back?
Make a decision based on the facts you gather and move on.

5. Ruthless Time Management
Great time managers have a crystal-clear focus on what's important. They know how to implement boundaries so they don't get distracted. Try building regular time into your schedule to accomplish tasks related to your new venture and stick to that schedule.

Handling the Crisis du jour

2008-10-08T08:36:00.002+08:00

The world thrives on one crisis after another. When one crisis has run its course, news people come up others to take its place. This is as predictable as the sunrise.

This kind of "news" brings out all the gurus, self-appointed "experts", analysts and "preachers of doom" only too willing to share their views on any given subject. However articulate they may be, seldom, if ever, do they offer any viable solution to the problem. And if they do, it is immediately challenged with hostility and rejection.

Is there a real solution? Of course there is! It has been articulated by serious thinkers throughout history but nobody is listening. In more recent times, it has been presented by Dr. Einstein when he noted that, "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. We must learn to see the world anew".

Every problem, every crisis, every conflict, whether personal, professional, corporate, national or international can only be resolved by this self-evident rule. However difficult it may seem, the law demands that we see the troubled world from a completely opposite point of view. The opposite of chaos, turmoil and discord is harmony, balance and perpetual well being.

Where does all this take place? Think about it. The only PLACE it can occur is in your conscious awareness. Your experiences take place within you; they are not a "something" that occurs externally "out there" somewhere. This is your "mindset" which, by definition, "determines and influences events and circumstances" (Webster).

This new, opposite world is embodied in the universe which is defined by Webster as,"The whole body of things observed or assumed; including the whole without limit or exception; accruing everywhere". There is no room for chaos, confusion or conflict here!

QUESTION: The infinite universe, being the only reality, wherein does this "thing" they call a "crisis" come from?

ANSWER: It doesn't come from anywhere; it is merely the unawareness or absence of the answer. It can have no more real existence than a counterfeit dollar bill can have without there being a genuine dollar bill to be a counterfeit of.

What is termed a "crisis" is only the absence or unawareness of the answer. It is an illusory, misinterpretation of the harmony and balance already in full operation in the universe of which we are an inexorable part. In reality, the only way we can experience this illusory "thing" they call a crisis is to accept it as real. To the degree that we can separate ourselves from it and identify ourselves with the "controlling forces of the universe without limit or exception", can we prove it in the "events and circumstances" that comprise our life experiences.

This is more than a nice comfortable philosophical, abstract or academic statement. It is the LAW! "Law" is defined by Webster as, "A rule or principle that always works and is enforced by a governing authority".

The Power of Salesmanship

2008-10-07T11:03:00.001+08:00

Most salespeople are terrible at sales. They believe that the secret to their sales success is hard work, and more hard work. Some believe that learning more closes is the answer. The truth is that the only person in the equation who can truly close your customer, is your customer!

If you are not allowing your customer's own subconscious mind to do your work for you, you are swimming upstream, and you working way too hard!

99.9% of all sales is emotion-based, not logic-based. Your customer is going to make their buying decision based on their inner, intangible, and unseen creation of an emotional connection with the buying experience.

Then, and only then, will they begin to use 'logic'. And their logic will be used to rationalize and support their 'emotionally based' decision to buy.

Most salespeople have absolutely no idea of the true, higher-level concept of connection with their customer, how it is created, and what to do with it. They unknowingly stand in the way of their own sales success by not allowing their customers to close themselves. Is this you?

You must create a "safe-harbor" connection with them. They must not only feel like you are just like them, but that you do 'like' them. Everyone wants to feel appreciated, and no one wants to feel judged.

tougue twisters

2008-10-03T19:48:00.000+08:00

1. If you understand, say "understand" . If you don't understand, say "don't understand". But if you understand and say "don't understand". How do I understand that you understand? Understand!

2. I wish to wish the wish you wish to wish, but if you wish the wish the witch wishes, I won't wish the wish you wish to wish.

3. Sounding by sound is a sound method of sounding sounds.

4. A sailor went to sea to see, what he could see. And all he could see was sea, sea, sea.

5. Purple Paper People, Purple Paper People, Purple Paper People
6. If two witches were watching two watches, which witch would watch which watch?

7. I thought a thought.But the thought I thought wasn't the thought I thought I thought. If the thought I thought I thought had been the thought I thought, I wouldn't have thought so much.

8. Once a fellow met a fellow In a field of beans. Said a fellow to a fellow, "If a fellow asks a fellow, Can a fellow tell a fellow What a fellow means?"

9. Mr Inside went over to see Mr Outside. Mr Inside stood outside and called to MrOutside inside. Mr Outside answered Mr Inside from inside and Told Mr Inside to come inside. Mr Inside said "NO", and told Mr Outside to come outside. MrOutside and Mr Inside argued from inside and outside about going outside or coming inside. Finally, Mr Outside coaxed Mr Inside to come inside, then both Mr Outside and Mr Inside went outside to the riverside.

10. SHE SELLS SEA SHELLS ON THE SEA SHORE , BUT THE SEA SHELLS THAT SHE SELLS, ON THE SEA SHORE ARE NOT THE REAL ONES

11. The owner of the inside inn was inside his inside inn with his inside outside his inside inn.

12. If one doctor doctors another doctor does the doctor who doctors the doctor doctor the doctor the way the doctor he is doctoring doctors? Or does the doctor doctor the way the doctor who doctors doctors?
"When a doctor falls ill another doctor doctor's the doctor. Does the doctor doctoring the doctor doctor the doctor in his own way or does the doctor doctoring the doctor doctors the doctor in the doctor's way"

13. We surely shall see the sun shine shortly. Whether the weather be fine, Or whether the weather be not, Whether the weather be cold Or whether the weather be hot, We'll weather the weather Whatever the weather, Whether we like it or not. watch? Whether the weather is hot. Whether the weather is cold. Whether the weather is either or not. It is whether we like it or not.

14. Nine nice night nurses nursing nicely.

15. A flea and a fly in a flue Said the fly "Oh what should we do" Said the flea" Let us fly Said the fly"Let us flee" So they flew through a flaw in the flue

16. If you tell Tom to tell a tongue-twister his tongue will be twisted as tongue-twister twists tongues.

17. Mr. See owned a saw.And Mr. Soar owned a seesaw. Now See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw Before Soar saw See, Which made Soar sore.Had Soar seen See's saw Before See sawed Soar's seesaw, See's saw would not have sawed Soar's seesaw. So See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw.But it was sad to see Soar so sore Just because See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw

Maaf Zahir dan Batin

2008-09-30T18:41:00.002+08:00

Top Six Reasons To Forgive

No one can change the past, but you do have the power to upgrade how you feel about it, and that makes all the difference. You can take your power back from all those painful memories, and make peace with your past. Forgiveness heals the guilt and the hurt, and does this quietly, privately, and thoroughly. Forgiveness does not mean that you let anyone off the hook, it means that your present happiness is more important than your past suffering. Forgiveness does not mean that you condone the hurtful things done to you, it means that you reclaim your right to run your own life.

Right now those hurtful things are running your life, and how is that working for you? The people who hurt you may have ruined your yesterdays, but only you are in charge of your tomorrows. And if you feel guilt over people that you have hurt, forgiving yourself will heal you and allow you to move forward with a happier attitude and a healthier body.

So here are the top six reasons to forgive.
1 You will feel better and laugh more. Resolving all that negative spin from your past allows you to enjoy yourself and have the daily fun you really want. Your buttons will stop being pushed because they will be gone. You see, guilt and hatred resolve nothing, they just sustain the negativity that continues to stop you from reaching your personal and professional goals. Forgiveness, on the other hand, undoes the stickiness that binds you to all those unhappy yesterdays, and this returns your personal energy to your present life, and you get more done. Forgiveness is excellent for improved prosperity and success in every area of your life.

2 You will be healthier. Carrying negativity appears to cause many physical ills. The body and the mind are the same thing. Just as ice and steam are still basically water, your body and your mind are simply different manifestations of your spirit. Relieve your mental stress and your body will be happier too. Nothing relieves mental stress like forgiveness. Forgiveness heals.

3 People will like you better.You will be a more enjoyable person to be around, and will attract more positive people to your life. Humans are imperfect, and we all make mistakes. One trait of positive people is that they take life less personally, and readily forgive mistakes as they happen. On the other hand, perfectionists are often miserable people, having standards way too high to be reached. Would you settle for mere excellence? Then do so, and your relations with others will improve immediately. Perfectionists are all about judgement, whereas happy people are all about smiles. Sure, there are fights worth fighting, but if you live is one long series of fights with other people, the exhaustion must be terrible for you. Forgive and life improves. It really is that simple.

4 You will stop the constant suffering. Forgive others exactly because what happened was not your fault. Ask yourself: What was done to me? How long ago did all that happen? Are those hurtful people still in my life? Why should I keep suffering for what someone else did? Since it was not my fault, why am I still paying for it? Of course you have suffered way too long and way too much already. And those hurtful people have probably been gone from your life for years. So let the suffering stop right now. Forgive them.

And it may be that complete, one hundred percent may not be possible for you at first, and that is fine. Not to worry, because you can start with a small percentage of forgiveness and work up. How about forgiving them ten percent? Twenty? Eighty? Even five percent forgiveness is an excellent step in the right direction. The more you forgive, the better you will feel.

5 You have punished yourself long enough. Self forgiveness stops the overwhelming feelings of guilt that obstruct your happiness. Ask yourself: What was my crime? How long ago did that happen? Am I still doing stuff like that? If I had been imprisoned for it, would I be out by now? You have likely already punished yourself way too much, and it is time to grant yourself a full pardon. Forgive does not mean forget, it means accepting responsibility, and moving on with your life in positive ways, having learned your lessons. You can stop spinning over how you used to be and get on with creating the good life you have always deserved. So forgive yourself. Today. Right now. Since you cannot undo what you did, you must do the next best thing, and that is to face what happened, and then let the blame go.

6 No one needs to know. Forgiveness happens privately, between you and God, or between you and your higher self. You do not need to call anyone up or write any letters. Forgiveness is an internal healing, and it is all about you. Other people will have to forgive themselves for what they did. Your concern is you. You evolve all the time anyway, so why not evolve for the better?
And here is how do forgiveness. As you remember past events and the people involved, feel forgiveness flow from your heart out to them and back to yourself. Visualize what happened and who was there, forgiving everything and everyone involved. If you are not particularly visual, that is not a problem at all, since you can just sense and feel what happened, and process from there. Sensing and feeling work just as well as visualizing.

If anger arises when you think of some people, then in the privacy of your own thoughts, confront them. Tell them how you feel about what happened, and spend all of that anger you feel toward them. Tell them all the things you would never say to their face, but need to express. And then forgive them.

You may need to feel forgiven by your higher power. Please know that God forgives you the first time you ask, so only ask once. If you have to ask twice, then it is you who is not forgiving you. Forgive yourself fully knowing that God never needs to be asked twice.

Ultimate Caring in Life

2008-09-30T18:37:00.001+08:00

Many people have the ability to truly care and receive joy when caring from the heart. Yet even very caring people sometimes find themselves using caring as a form of control.

Take a moment right now to think about a situation today in which you were caring - at home, at work, with a friend, or with someone you don't know such as a salesperson or a waiter. Are you willing to be completely honest with yourself regarding why you were caring? If you are, then go inside and notice if your caring had any outcome attached to it. Is there something you wanted from the other person? Is there some reason you were caring other than caring for the joy of it?

Ask yourself these questions:
* Was there some part of me that was trying to control what the other person thought of me? Was I behaving in a caring way to get attention, approval, validation, love, time, or sex?

* Was there a part of me hoping that my caring would result in monetary gain? Was I acting caring in the hopes of getting the other person to trust me enough to participate in some way that would bring me more money?

None of us like to think of ourselves as manipulative, yet we all have a part of us that wants control over getting what we want, and we may have learned to use our caring as one form of control.

While caring as a form of control may seem to work at times, it will never bring you joy. You might receive approval or sex or money, but something will always seem to be missing from your life. Getting what you believe you want may feel good for the moment, but it will never bring you the deep joy that results when caring from the heart with no agenda or attachment to outcomes.

When we are caring from the heart, we become, as Mother Teresa said, "God's pencil." We are giving to others just for the sake of expressing what is most beautiful about life - caring about each other. Giving to others from an open heart fills the soul with joy.

You can express this pure caring only when you are also caring about yourself. If you are not giving yourself the attention, validation, and love that we all need, then you will covertly be trying to get this from others. Others will pick up the "giving to get" energy and may not feel your "caring." In fact, others may even become resistant to receiving your caring because it feels controlling to them - and it is.

We can be caring purely for the joy of it only when we are taking 100% responsibility for ourselves - for thinking and behaving in ways that lead to inner safety and a deep sense of self worth. When we are not doing this for ourselves, then we need this from others, and we will be unable to be caring without strings attached.

It is in primary relationships with mates, children, and parents, that our giving to get has the most negative consequences. No one likes to be controlled by others, so when you give with an agenda, you may encounter anger and/or withdrawal. Your loved ones might not even know why they are angry or withdrawn. They just know that something feels bad inside them when you are "caring" about them.

While the outward behavior may look exactly the same when you are caring with an agenda or caring for the joy of it, energetically these two intentions feel totally different to others. If others are not responsive to your caring, you might want to honestly look at your intent in being caring.

Question that always haunt us!!!

2008-09-28T20:36:00.000+08:00

If you have sex with a prostitute against her will, is it considered rape or shoplifting?

Can you cry under water?

How important does a person have to be before they are considered assassinated instead of just murdered?

Why do you have to 'put your two cents in'... but it's only a 'penny for your thoughts'? Where's that extra penny going to?

Once you're in heaven, do you get stuck wearing the clothes you were buried in for eternity?

Why does a round pizza come in a square box?

What disease did cured ham actually have?

How is it that we put man on the moon before we figured out it would be a good idea to put wheels on luggage?

Why is it that people say they 'slept like a baby' when babies wake up like every two hours?

Why are you IN a movie, but you're ON TV?

Why do people pay to go up tall buildings and then put money in binoculars to look at things on the ground?

Why do doctors leave the room while you change?

They're going to see you naked anyway.

Why is 'bra' singular and 'panties' plural?

Why do toasters always have a setting that burns the toast to a horrible crisp, which no decent human being would eat?

If Jimmy cracks corn and no one cares, why is there a stupid song about him?

Can a hearse carrying a corpse drive in the carpool lane ?

If the professor on Gilligan's Island can make a radio out of a coconut, why can't he fix a hole in a boat?

Why does Goofy stand erect while Pluto remains on all fours?

They're both dogs!

If Wile E. Coyote had enough money to buy all that ACME crap, why didn't he just buy dinner?

If corn oil is made from corn, and vegetable oil is made from vegetables, what is baby oil made from?

If electricity comes from electrons, does morality come from morons?

Do the Alphabet song and Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star have the same tune?

Why did you just try singing the two songs above?

Why do they call it an asteroid when it's outside the hemisphere, but call it a hemorrhoid when it's in your butt?

Did you ever notice that when you blow in a dog's face, he gets mad at you, but when you take him for a car ride, he sticks his head out the window?

Do you ever wonder why you gave me your e-mail address in the first place?

Something to Ponder Again...

2008-09-25T14:56:00.000+08:00

The Frogs

A farmer came into town and asked the owner of a restaurant if he could use a million frog legs. The restaurant owner was shocked and asked the man where he could get so many frog legs! The farmer replied, 'There is a pond near my house that is full of frogs - millions of them. They all croak all night long and they are about to make me crazy!' So the restaurant owner and the farmer made an agreement that the farmer would deliver frogs to the restaurant, five hundred at a time for the next several weeks.

The first week, the farmer returned to the restaurant looking rather sheepish, with two scrawny little frogs. The restaurant owner said, 'Well... where are all the frogs?' The farmer said, 'I was mistaken. There were only these two frogs in the pond. But they sure were making a lot of noise!'

[Next time you hear somebody criticizing or making fun of you, remember, it's probably just a couple of noisy frogs. Also remember that problems always seem bigger in the dark. Have you ever laid in your bed at night worrying about things which seem almost overwhelming like a million frogs croaking? Chances are pretty good that when the morning comes, and you take a closer look, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.]

The Pretty Lady

Once upon a time a big monk and a little monk were traveling together. They came to the bank of a river and found the bridge was damaged. They had to wade across the river. There was a pretty lady who was stuck at the damaged bridge and couldn't cross the river. The big monk offered to carry her across the river on his back. The lady accepted. The little monk was shocked by the move of the big monk. 'How can big brother carry a lady when we are supposed to avoid all intimacy with females?' thought the little monk. But he kept quiet. The big monk carried the lady across the river and the small monk followed unhappily. When they crossed the river, the big monk let the lady down and they parted ways with her.

All along the way for several miles, the little monk was very unhappy with the act of the big monk. He was making up all kinds of acussations about big monk in his head. This got him madder and madder. But he still kept quiet. And the big monk had no inclination to explain his situation. Finally, at a rest point many hours later, the little monk could not stand it any further, he burst out angrily at the big monk. 'How can you claim yourself a devout monk, when you seize the first opportunity to touch a female, especially when she is very pretty? All your teachings to me make you a big hypocrite. The big monk looked surprised and said, 'I had put down the pretty lady at the river bank many hours ago, how come you are still carrying her along?'

[This very old Chinese Zen story reflects the thinking of many people today. We encounter many unpleasant things in our life, they irritate us and they make us angry. Sometimes, they cause us a lot of hurt, sometimes they cause us to be bitter or jealous .. But like the little monk, we are not willing to let them go away. We keep on carrying the baggage of the 'pretty lady' with us. We let them keep on coming back to hurt us, make us angry, make us bitter and cause us a lot of agony. Why? Simply because we are not willing to put down or let go of the baggage of the 'pretty lady'. We should let go of the pretty lady immediately after crossing the river, that is after the unpleasant event is over. This will immediately remove all our agonies. There is no need to be further hurt by the unpleasant event after it is over.]

The Turtles

A turtle family decided to go on a picnic. The turtles, being naturally slow about things, took seven years to prepare for their outing. Finally the turtle family left home looking for a suitable place. During the second year of their journey they found a place ideal for them at last!

For about six months they cleaned the area, unpacked the picnic basket, and completed the arrangements. Then they discovered they had forgotten the salt. A picnic without salt would be a disaster, they all agreed. After a lengthy discussion, the youngest turtle was chosen to retrieve the salt from home. Although he was the fastest of the slow moving turtles, the little turtle whined, cried, and wobbled in his shell. He agreed to go on one condition: that no one would eat until he returned. The family consented and the little turtle left.

Three years passed and the little turtle had not returned. Five years...six years... then on the seventh year of his absence, the oldest turtle could no longer contain his hunger. He announced that he was going to eat and begun to unwrap a sandwich.
At that point the little turtle suddenly popped out from behind a tree shouting, 'See! I knew you wouldn't wait. Now I am not going to go get the salt.'

[Some of us waste our time waiting for people to live up to our expectations. We are so concerned about what others are doing that we don't do anything ourselves.]

Science is organized knowledge. Wisdom is organized life.

You GottA READ THIS STORY

2008-09-24T19:59:00.004+08:00

Are you contented?

Have you ever, at any one time, had the feeling that life is bad, real bad, and you wish you were in another situation?You find life make things difficult for you, work sucks, life sucks, everything seems to go wrong...

Read the following story... it may change your views about life:

After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking 2 jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is.

I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, 2 daughters and the many bills of a household.

He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in India that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low and touring India after a major setback.

He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother chop off her child's right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the mother's eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4-year-old child haunted him until today.You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child's hand been infected?? No, it was done for two simple words-TO BEG! The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so that the child could go out to the streets to beg.

Taken a back by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating half-way. And almost instantly, a flock 5 or 6 children swamped towards this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from one another. The natural reaction of hunger.

Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumb founded but willingly sold everything. He spent less than $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of bread (this is less than $0..25 per loaf) and spent another $100 to get daily necessities. Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets.

As he distributed the bread and necessities to the children (mostly handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25. He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be able to have a complete body, have a job! , have a family, have the chance to complain what food is nice and what isn't nice, have the chance to be clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are deprived of...Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad?

Perhaps... no, I should not feel bad at all... What about you? Maybe the next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets."Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the realization of how much you already have." When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times welook so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which hasbeen opened for us. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that! we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past,youcan't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

The Power of Intent

2008-09-24T08:38:00.000+08:00

Imagine two big spotlights. One is pointed upward, casting light far into the air. The other is pointed downward and buried into the earth - no light is cast at all.

This is like intent.

There are only two possible intentions in any given moment: the intent to learn about loving yourself and others, and the intent to protect against pain with some form of controlling behavior.

When you consciously choose the intent to learn, your light points upward, shining upon the truth that will guide you in your highest good. Your mind opens and becomes a receiver of the information you need to support yourself in manifesting your dreams. Consciously choosing the intent to learn is the most powerful thing we can do. When we consciously choose the intent to learn, we open ourselves to our Higher Self - the part of us that connects us with the information and creativity in the universe.

When we unconsciously choose the intent to control, we shut off access to truth. Our mind closes and becomes like a closed circuit TV - recycling the old information that has been programmed into our mind. We become stuck in our limited mind, operating from the false beliefs that we learned as we were growing up. We become stuck in the past, recreating old hurts.

The challenge here is that our unconscious automatic choice is to control. When we were growing up, we all had to learn many ways to control to survive the challenges of childhood. We learned ways of trying to have control over how people feel about us and treat us, such as anger, blame, judgment, righteousness, or compliance. We learned ways to protect against losing ourselves to another's control, such as resisting or withdrawing. We learned many addictive ways of avoiding feeling our pain, such using food, drugs, alcohol, TV, Internet, sex, work, sports, gambling, shopping, self-judgment, and so on - all to have control over not feeling our painful feelings.

Most people immediately, and unconsciously, choose the intent to control the moment they feel any anxiety. The problem is that the intent to control is self-abandonment, always causing even more fear, anxiety or depression. Instead of shining the light of love upon your distress in order to learn and heal, you shove the light into the ground, causing more darkness.

Choosing your intent is the essence of free will, and it determines what you feel and what you manifest. While you might have momentary pleasure when something good happens, the deep joy and wellbeing that we all seek, and the ability to manifest your dreams, is the result of your intent to learn about loving yourself and others.

The challenge in our lives is to REMEMBER that we are at choice - to remember to choose the intent to learn.

How can you remember to consciously choose the intent to learn? How can you remember, the moment you feel any fear, anxiety, or any stress, to open to learning about what you are thinking or doing that is creating this stress? What can you do to stop your automatic reactive controlling behavior?

First of all, you need to accept that this is a lifetime practice - not something that will occur quickly. We have all been practicing the intent to control for most of our lives, so it will take much practice to even remember that there is another choice.

The place to start is to practice noticing your feelings throughout a day. Perhaps wearing a rubber band that you can snap on your wrist will remind you to check inside to see how you are feeling. You cannot begin to learn about your thoughts and actions that are causing your feelings until you are aware of your painful feelings. You cannot stop your addictive anesthetics until you are WILLING to feel your feelings and take responsibility for them.

If you decide that you are willing to feel your feelings, that willingness will lead you to becoming more and more conscious of your feelings. This is the beginning of being able to consciously choose your intent to learn.

Manulife in talks with AIG

2008-09-23T08:39:00.002+08:00

ROME — — Manulife Financial [MFC-T] is among the global insurers poised to launch bids for parts of American International Group [AIG-N], the giant insurer that became a ward of the U.S. government when last week's financial crisis pushed it to the brink of collapse.

Manulife executives, led by CEO Dominic D'Alessandro, met with financial advisers late last week to consider ways to exploit AIG's probable breakup, sources said.

Buying all of AIG, or big parts of it, would propel Manulife to the top rank of the global financial services industry.

It could also severely damage the company if the hurricanes hitting Wall Street do not lose their fury.

Mr. D'Alessandro isn't talking about Manulife's plans and did not return e-mails seeking comment. Manulife spokeswoman Laurie Lupton declined to comment yesterday.

AIG, the world's biggest insurer, would have collapsed had the U.S. Federal Reserve not agreed to lend it up to $85-billion (U.S.) in exchange for 79.9 per cent of its equity, making its rescue a de facto nationalization. Analysts expect AIG to be sold, in whole or in part.

While other insurers, ranging from Germany's Munich Re to Australia's QBE Insurance, are also potential bidders for large chunks of AIG, Manulife is viewed by some as a more logical suitor.

The Toronto-based insurer is a strong player in a weak market.

Like other insurers and banks that escaped the worst of the credit crunch, the company is ready to feast on the remains of the companies consumed by their own excesses, analysts said.

In a note published last Wednesday, Citigroup insurance industry analyst Colin Devine called Manulife, Canada's largest insurer, "an ideal candidate to make an aggressive bid for AIG."

"We consider [Manulife] the only insurer in the world with sufficient balance sheet strength that would allow it to bid for all of AIG's U.S. and Asian life insurance businesses," Mr. Devine said in his report.

Manulife's share price - $35.15 on Friday - is only 24 per cent off its 52-week high, giving it a market value of $52-billion.

Its profits, balance sheet and investment portfolio are robust and its insurance subsidiaries are rated triple-A, Standard & Poor's top rating. It has $3-billion in excess capital and could borrow much more to finance a deal.

Mr. D'Alessandro, 62, is set to step down as CEO by next spring, and he is to be replaced by chief investment officer Don Guloien. With little more than half a year to go, Mr. D'Alessandro might be reluctant to plunge himself and his executives into yet another transformational deal. Nor could he do it without Mr. Guloien's approval. Whatever Mr. D'Alessandro starts, his successor will have to finish.

But Mr. D'Alessandro has always wanted to build a Canadian-based global champion, and prizes like AIG come along only once in a century.

AIG's share have gone from a high of $70.11 to about $4, giving the biggest name in the business a market value of a mere $10-billion. The insurer's Asian business would turn Manulife into a powerhouse in that part of the world. Manulife is already third among foreign insurers, measured by earnings contribution from Asia. AIG is first, with 70 per cent of its earnings from Asia.

Analysts say AIG's crown jewels are its Asian operations and the group pension business in the United States. The U.S. business would be doubly attractive to Manulife because of the synergy potential with John Hancock, the big U.S. insurer bought by Manulife in 2004 for about $11-billion.

AIG is certainly a target. Its loan from the Fed comes at a punitive interest rate - 8.5 percentage points above the London interbank offered rate (Libor). The expensive loan gives AIG a huge incentive to unload assets so it can pay back the money quickly. Even before last week's nightmare, AIG had announced its intention to sell International Lease Finance Corp., the largest aircraft leasing business.

Manulife could make a quick offer for the whole company, which would please the regulators.

The problem is that the toxin levels in AIG's portfolios are not known. Buying certain divisions would be far less risky for Manulife or any other bidder.

The risk that comes with buying divisions instead of the whole company is getting trapped in bidding wars with powerful foreign rivals eager to build their U.S. presence.

Buying parts of AIG would be very much in character for Mr. D'Alessandro, who turned Manulife into a perpetual motion machine. Under him, the company de-mutualized and joined the stock market in 1999. He was keen to have a takeover to build the company.

In 2002, he bought Zurich Life's Canadian arm and tried to buy CIBC, an effort that was stopped by John Manley, the finance minister at the time. A year later, he landed John Hancock. Businesses were collected across Asia.

Today, Manulife is the top insurer in Canada, the second-biggest in North America and the sixth-biggest in the world. Half of its earnings come from the United States, with the other half split between Asia and Canada.

Size doesn't guarantee success, as AIG found. But Manulife is no AIG. While it has been an aggressive purchaser of companies, it was careful not to pay too much. In 2003, for instance, it ended its pursuit of Canada Life when the bidding got too rich (Great-West Lifeco was the winner).

Crucially, it shied away from products that seemed too good to be true, like credit default swaps, or CDSs, which are insurance against defaults on assets linked to corporate debt and mortgage securities. AIG teetered when it was downgraded by S&P on Sept. 15 and was suddenly unable to come up with the collateral to back its swaps. That's when the Fed came charging to the rescue. Its collapse would have sent financial shockwaves around the planet.

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20080922.wrreguly22/BNStory/Business

Iron Lady Fall Sick

2008-09-20T21:40:00.002+08:00

The mentioned Iron Lady is my mom, of course, she was used to be tough everyday but not for past 3 days. She was not feeling well but still reacted that she was okay after all until few hours ago where i forced her to meet our family doctor. Along the way, mama can't take it anymore as she started to vomit approximately 5 times within an hour time.

Gosh, how pain in your heart, time for me to take care of her, brought her bread, ensure she took medicine on time. Today, usually her busy day as so many football matches been live telecast on Astro but she have to give up for this week. Time to go bed and have a good rest.

As for me, no holiday, i have to take care of everything as i'm the only one at home where else everybody was outstation.

Enjoy your weekend.

Support Chelsea tommorrow..

Warning of world financial crisis?

2008-09-17T00:32:00.003+08:00

Stocks fluctuate as investors mull future of AIG

NEW YORK – Stocks fluctuated Tuesday following a report that the government is considering extending aid to troubled insurer American International Group Inc. — the latest in a string of companies that investors worry could be undone by a shortage of cash.

A partial recovery in several other financial companies helped the sector show signs of life a day after leading Wall Street to its worst session in years. Investors also grew hopeful about a Federal Reserve interest rate cut.

Worries about AIG's well-being intensified Monday and early Tuesday after several ratings agencies downgraded the company. Lower ratings can add to the amount of money the already cash-strapped company has to set aside. Investors fear that a failure by the world's largest insurer would touch off a wave of financial turmoil.

But a CNBC report said the government is at least discussing extending a financial lifeline to the company; it cautioned that an agreement is far from certain and also that the company isn't likely to find help from the private sector. AIG fell $2.07, or 43 percent, to $2.69 after being down nearly 75 percent in earlier trading.

source: http://news.yahoo.com/story//ap/20080916/ap_on_bi_st_ma_re/wall_street

The Right Path

2008-09-16T20:54:00.001+08:00

By taking the time to gain new insights into ourselves and our business, we create an opportunity to see things in a different light - to truly see things as they are. Once we do that, we can much better determine whether we need to take a new and better approach to building our business or instead, choose a new path for ourselves. You may find that you're running hard down the wrong path altogether...

If you decide that you're on the wrong path, it's OK. It is VERY common for that to be the case. In truth, many people suspect they're on the wrong path but don't acknowledge it. They end up spending a lifetime being unhappy and/or dissatisfied with their life. Take stock of the things you enjoy doing and where your true talents lie, and then go about identifying new and different opportunities in which to apply them. Once you're in an occupation that you enjoy, life really becomes enjoyable and satisfying. You'll end up working less (mostly because what you'll be doing you won't consider to be work), and you'll achieve a much greater level of success.

If instead, you decide that you ARE on the right path, then good for you! But you have a different challenge ahead of you. Remember that old saying about the definition of "insanity"? It goes like this: "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results!"

If you aren't at the level of success you want to be and you've determined that you ARE in the right kind of occupation, then it probably is time to do something different. Stop conducting "business as usual". You need to become more open-minded about how to get the job done. Here's how I see it: You can insist on doing things the way you've always done them, or you can choose to reinvent yourself and your business, and start doing things differently. Even if you've been in this business a while, be open to taking advice from others. Even newer people can have good, fresh ideas. Things that didn't work years ago may now be effective - given changes in society, and given your present level of expertise and experience. Commit to investing in yourself and your development. Start reading on a regular basis. Start attending or acquiring educational programs. Even ONE new idea can take your business to a whole new level.

One of the problems we have is that we often get completely caught up in our day-to-day routine. This prevents us from stepping back from our work, reflecting on our lives and our business, and reevaluating what we really want to do. My suggestion is to do just that. It is CRITICAL to your success and your happiness to take the time to reflect. When you get away from your office you gain new perspectives.

Re-evaluate yourself and your business. Gain clarity as to whether you should continue to build the business you're in or change occupations. If staying where you are is right, then commit to changing and growing. Be open to new ideas, even if the "new" ideas are ones you tried years ago without success. Remember, times have changed and you have changed. We are not the same people we were 10 or even 5 years ago. As our experience grows, so does our ability to succeed where we once faltered.

Chelsea Won Clash of Cash

2008-09-14T10:02:00.004+08:00

Chelsea 3 - 1 Manchester City

It should have been a bright new dawn but ended up being more of the same for Manchester City as they slipped to defeat against Chelsea despite a debut-day opener from record signing Robinho.

Robinho scores from a free-kick on his debut for Manchester City. The £32.5million man paid off the first instalment of his British record price-tag by putting Mark Hughes' men ahead with a superb 13th-minute free-kick.

But it was downhill all the way after that as Chelsea scored three times without reply to register a seventh straight win over City even though England captain John Terry was sent off for a professional foul.

Best of luck Robinho and Mark Hughes, Hurray Chelsea...

Greatest Quality in Life

2008-09-13T15:14:00.002+08:00

You take decisions often every day, don't you? Some are easy, some less so, but you know all about taking decisions, and then sticking to them. You might decide to move to another city due to a fantastic job offer, you might decide to stop smoking, you might decide to incorporate some physical activity into your life, you might decide to spend more quality time with your kids, or you might decide to stop straightening your hair, and let it out in all its curly glory.

Imagine taking a decision one day to be happy. The ability to enjoy life, the ability to be happy, is, from my point of view, the greatest quality in life. With this one quality your life becomes - ipso facto - better, more enjoyable, increasing in satisfaction and daily contentment. What can go wrong, if you have decided - in advance - to always be happy, no matter what?

Imagine waking up in the morning and saying to yourself, no matter what happens today, no matter who does their best to frustrate or anger me, I will not stray from my path of feeling good about my life. No one will have the power to make me leave that path. No event will cause me to leave that path. This means that you correct your feelings, your reactions, at their very inception...in other words, if you notice that something is occurring that is threatening to make you go in another direction, you literally decide to choose another alternative at that moment, because you know - you are aware of the fact - that you have this choice.

You have the choice because in the end it always depends on your own decisions much more than on absolutely anything else. I repeat this over and over again, because in psychology, just as in marketing, it typically requires that a concept is heard or read nine times before it totally sinks in, and this concept of how you feel at any time, and how you react to events, is truly your choice.

Go about your morning, your day, your life with a new decision to give yourself the greatest quality in life ... deciding to live a content life ... no matter what ... simply because you so decide.

Who Are You?

2008-09-13T15:02:00.003+08:00

In truth, it's WHO YOU ARE, rather than what you do or what you know, that persuades someone to buy from you. People will choose to do business with you because they like you, relate to you, and trust you.

What traits define "who you are" in the minds of others? Obviously there are many things which define who we are, but the following list is a good place to start.

Have Integrity

* Do what you say you're going to do.

* Show up on time

* Return phone calls in a timely manner
Care About Others

* Do what's in the best interest of others, even if it doesn't result in a sale

* Add value beyond the value of your products and services

* Take an interest in your prospects and your clients as people, not just as business relationships

Have a Professional Appearance

* Dress and act professionally, which usually means slightly better than your prospects

* Be relatable

* Be respectful of people and their time

Have a Positive Attitude

* People like to do business with people they like and like being around

* Be a positive and optimistic person

* Focus on the possibilities and not the obstacles

If a person continually improves in these areas, not only will it cause more people to choose to buy from them, but they will ATTRACT more of the kinds of clients they want. Opportunities will seem to "materialize" because of who we are. Plus, you'll enjoy your business more than ever before.

Most of us could benefit from improving in one or more of the areas mentioned above, but it can be a challenge to achieve that improvement. Often it's difficult to improve in these areas simply because we're blind to where and how we could improve. We're creatures of habit and mostly operate on "autopilot". Additionally, it's really not about how we see ourselves, but rather how others perceive us.

Therefore, trying to make many of the changes necessary is almost impossible. The most effective way to identify areas for improvement is to ask those around us. (Obviously, we need to choose people who want us to succeed and who we trust.) Once we become aware of those areas we want to change, the next challenge is in actually making those changes. The problem here is that because what we're trying to change are habits - habits that no longer serve us - we generally aren't even aware when we behave the way we do.

After all, they're HABITS. So once again, the best way to make the changes that we want is to enlist the help of people around us. Ask those people you trust to point out to you when youfall into those old habits that you want to break. In this way, your attention will be drawn to your actions so you can act with intention rather than by habit or reaction. By getting an objective perspective and then making the changes you want, you'll be able to accelerate your success, make more money, and stop selling!

Slam to end a Slump Year

2008-09-09T08:34:00.004+08:00

Roger Federer capture lucky 13 Grand Slam

NEW YORK (AP)—No matter what anyone else said or thought, Roger Federer knew he was still capable of elite tennis.

Knew he was still capable of winning Grand Slam titles.

Knew he was still Roger Federer.

Back at his best, back at the top of tennis, Federer easily beat Andy Murray 6-2, 7-5, 6-2 Monday to win his fifth consecutive U.S. Open championship and 13th major title overall.

Federer is the first man since Bill Tilden in the 1920s to win the tournament that many times in a row. He also moved within one major championship of tying Pete Sampras’ career record of 14.

“One thing’s for sure,” Federer said in an on-court interview. “I’m not going to stop at 13. That would be terrible.”

I woke this morning about 6am to catch the match live telecast and it didn't dissapoint me. One lesson that i learned from the great Federer is that never give up after much slump for this year, no major titles until today, no Master series titles this year and lost his no1 ranking that he hold for 4 1/2 year, winning doubles gold medal at Olympics in Beijing instead of Singles gold medals, and received tonnes of criticsim from media around the world that he is old and no longer able to win major titles anymore especially with rising star Rafael Nadal and Noval Djokovic come fast and furious.

When we are in a "slump", keep our mouth shut, seek more advice and make it happen for ourselves. Never stop, and never give up. Always believe in yourself even nobody believe again in you.

Salute Federer.

Temper Management

2008-09-08T08:34:00.002+08:00

NAIL IN THE FENCE

Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence.
(Most importantly the last sentence)

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.

His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the and and led him to the fence He said, 'You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say 'I'm sorry', the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us.'

USD50 Lawyer

2008-09-05T18:10:00.000+08:00

Two lawyers, Jon and Amanpreet, head out for their usual 9 holes ofgolf. Jon offers Amanpreet a $50 bet. Amanpreet agrees and they'reoff. They shoot a great game. After the 8th hole, Amanpreet is aheadby one stroke, but cuts his ball into the rough on the 9th.''

Help me find my ball. Look over there,'' he says to Jon. After a fewminutes, neither has any luck. Since a lost ball carries a four pointpenalty, Amanpreet secretly pulls a ball from his pocket and tosses itto the ground. ''I've found my ball!'' he announces.''After all of the years we've been partners and playing together,"Jon says, "you'd cheat me out of a lousy 50 bucks?''

''What do you mean, cheat? I found my ball sitting right there!''''And you're a liar, too!'' Jon says. ''I'll have you know I've beenSTANDING on your ball for the last five minutes!''

Urgent Memo

2008-09-05T18:00:00.002+08:00

To: All Employees From: Human Resources

Re: Important Message from Human Resources

To All Staff, Please be advised that there are new rules and regulations implemented to raise the efficiency of our company.

ATTIRE:

It is advised that you come to work dressed according to your salary. If we see you wearing Adidas sneakers & carrying a Gucci bag, we assume you are doing well financially and therefore you do not need a raise. If you dress poorly, you need to learn to manage your money better, so that you may buy nicer clothes and therefore you don't need a raise. If you dress in-between, you are right where you need to be and therefore you do not need a raise.

PERSONAL DAYS:

Each employee will receive 104 personal days a year. They are called Saturday & Sunday.

LUNCH BREAK:

Skinny people get 30 minutes for lunch, as they need to eat more so that they can look healthy. Normal size people get 15 minutes for lunch to get a balanced meal to maintain their average figure. Overweight people get 5 minutes for lunch, because that is all the time needed to drink a Slim Fast and take a diet pill.

SICK DAYS:

We will no longer accept a doctor statement as proof of sickness. If you are able to go to the doctor, you are able to come to work.

RESTROOM USE:

Entirely too much time is being spent in the restroom. There is now a strict 3-minute time limit in the stalls. At the end of three minutes,an alarm will sound, the toilet paper roll will retract, the stall door will open and a picture will be taken. After your second offense, your picture will be posted on the company bulletin board under the "Chronic Offenders" category.

SURGERY:
As long as you are an employee here, you need all your organs. You should not consider removing anything. We hired you intact. To have something removed constitutes a breach of employment.

Thank you for your loyalty to our company. We are here to provide a positive employment experience. Therefore, all questions, comments,concerns, complaints, frustrations, irritations, aggravations, insinuations, allegations, accusations, contemplation, consternation and input should be directed to the Unemployment Offices. Have a nice day. Human Resources.

Systemize Your Success

2008-09-02T17:15:00.001+08:00

When it comes to personal behaviour and getting your daily activities in harmony with your life goals, it is absolutely critical to have a system in place. Brain researchers claim that between 90-95% of all human behaviour is habitual which means we literally perform these activities without really thinking about them. Without a system to govern your critical activities, you will very likely fall victim to your habits and never truly accomplish the goals you set out to achieve.

As a person who is working on a number of major goals for my lifetime, I am always examining my results and looking for ways to improve the quality of my work and manage the time I choose to allocate to all of my activities. There have been periods of incredible productivity and other times where it seemed that everything was at a stand-still (even though I felt extremely busy). Upon reflection, it is easy to see that the main reason I experienced success during those productive times was due to the presence of a well defined system.

The word system can be defined as "a coordinated body of methods or a scheme or plan of procedure; organizational scheme." When I think of a system, I think of a list of activities performed in a certain order with a specific result in mind. Ultimately, a properly defined and implemented system is the key to success in any area of life.

Just take a quick look around you and you can begin to appreciate the value of a well defined system. In many cases, the entire system has been automated for optimum performance. If you have any doubts, just think about what happens when you place a phone call, start your computer, turn on your lights, flush your toilet, start your car or even when you eat dinner. Each process is handled by a system that is responsible for producing a certain result. In the same light, I believe it is critically important for every person to have an activity management system for their life; a system that has been designed to help a person reach all of their desired goals and aspirations.

For me, having a system brings clarity to my mind and removes the potential of procrastination. It forces me to focus on what I really want to accomplish and take action accordingly. Before I really understood the concept of systemizing my calendar, I instinctively knew that I had to build a system that would help me create my new habits. For a period of probably 100 days (maybe more), I woke up every morning and opened my activity journal. I would divide the page in half. The right side of the page was a list of six success habits that I had decided to implement in my life; family time, fitness, good deed, personal development studying, business activities and mental fitness (which would include something like meditation, visualization exercises, vision boarding, etc...). The left side of the page would be a growing list of all activities that would pop up throughout the day (for example, returning an important phone call, doing my online banking, filing mail, etc...). I would write every single activity down and check it off upon completion.

As basic as it sounds, that particular system actually changed my life. First and foremost, I would not allow myself to go to bed at night without first crossing off all critical daily activities from the right side of the page. I was literally obligating myself to create new habits. Secondly, I would see the left side of each page completely full of checked-off items. I felt great every time I looked at all of the important activities I had completed and it gave me energy to do it again the next day.

I believe that a good portion of our own self esteem comes from our ability to give ourselves an assignment and complete it. If there was a time I was feeling overwhelmed by my to-do list, I could quickly glance through my journal and remind myself how productive I could be when I put my mind to it. The accumulation of pages in my activity journal ultimately acted as a "success log" and always provided that extra boost of confidence when I needed it most.

After a certain period of time, I'm not sure why but I decided to stop using that system. I went back to a more informal task management system and basically relied on my calendar appointments to keep me on track. The really interesting thing I noticed was that the habits I formed have remained with me for the most part. I have replaced some of those original "success habits" with new habits that fit my current business structure and lifestyle. At the same time, I recently came to the realization that due to my ever-growing list of work demands, my schedule was once again out of control and rather chaotic. I had been spending far too much time on low priority work tasks, my fitness regimen was suffering some setbacks and my overall level of enthusiasm was being affected. After some introspection, it became quite evident that it was time to systemize!

The most difficult part of the entire process was forcing myself to stop, take a breath and examine my results. Once I was able to do this, I could easily see the areas that needed improvement and it was simply a matter of designing a new system that matched my current demands and lifestyle. I'm now back on track, more organized and best of all I'm feeling enthusiastic about my days.

Are you aware of how you spend the time in your day? Could you stand to be more efficient and productive? Perhaps you have broken some of the good habits that used to be part of your daily routine? If so, there has never been a better time to systemize.

Robinho Hijacked

2008-09-02T17:08:00.002+08:00

Manchester City sealed the British record transfer of Robinho from Real Madrid late last night with manager Mark Hughes describing the amazing signing as 'a huge statement of intent'.The Blues managed to steal the limelight from rivals Manchester United's successful pursuit of Dimitar Berbatov with the capture of the Brazil forward in a deal understood to be worth around £32million after the club moved close to a takeover by the Abu Dhabi United Group for Development and Investment.

Shocking news as i first heard from MIX FM this morning while im on the way to meet new client. Hey, to Mr Roman Abramovich, the new owner of Manchester City Football Club Mr Al-Fahim declare himself at soccernet.com that he is the new Abramovich in England football.

Best of luck Robinho.

Life is a Gift

2008-08-27T11:12:00.001+08:00

The abilities I have you may not possess, the abilities you have I may never attain; we are unique, special, distinct and still... all the same. No two snowflakes are alike, each is individual...different. Just as grains of sand form together to create great beaches we as people join together to form mankind. We are each a piece of the puzzle, a thread of the tapestry, a word in the story of the beauty, joy, splendor, and majesty we call Life.

Never for even a moment question your reason for being. We are here for a purpose although we may never come to totally understanding the rhyme nor the reason of our mission....our life was meant to be.

Think about your family, your friends, your work; think how your presence impacts them all. Sure you may feel at times that they would be better off without you, STOP right now, and really think ... reflect upon your life. Would your children be here if you were not born? Would your friend's life be as enriched without you in it? Would someone else bring to your job your own unique talents, ideas or concepts? No, you are unequaled and life would not be the same without you.

Sure the earth will still rotate on its axis, the sun and moon continue to rise and set, the stars will still be seen at night, but I ask you would they evoke the same meaning to those you love and touch without having had you in their life?

All life is precious, never take it for granted. From the smallest ant to the magnificent red-wood tree... life is a gift... for you... for me.

"If You Have Touched One Heart, Taught One Lesson, And Given Unselfishly Of Yourself... Then You Truly Have Lived." - Bev Rosen Katowitz

One World, One Dream

2008-08-26T15:49:00.017+08:00

shopping@wangfujing street

fuwa or hot ladies?, gosh..my favourite sports::))

water fountain in front of Chaoyang beach volleyball park

ready for badminton final, but Datuk Lee Chong Wei kalah teruk

with kevin@forbidden city

i'm so lucky@got a chance to meet Manulife CEO@Canada, Mr Dominic(centre)

Beijing International Airport, the roses smell so good:))

yeah, i'm in the bird nest with Peter, CEO of Manulife Malaysia

jalur gemilang at Bird Nest Stadium

lobster for my dinner:))

Great Wall, here I'm

great lunch@Commune Great Wall

serene beauty at Commune Great Wall, nice restaurant

another photo with Regional Head, Francis at Bird Nest

Water Cube Stadium, wish to come at nite with the lighting

Ticket to Beijing

2008-08-15T10:45:00.002+08:00

hi frens,

i will board bus to KLIA in an hour time to catch my flight to Beijing on tonight 8pm via Thai Airways. Take care and all the best, Support Lee Chong Wei ok. Best wishes and enjoy your weekend.

Every success begin with your miracle dreams...start to realize your dream now..Make it Happen.

One Life, Live IT to the FUll.

Beijing Huan Ying Ni (Beijing Welcomes You)

2008-08-12T17:28:00.004+08:00

Dear friends, i will be on my way to Beijing, China this Friday on Thai Airways flight to catch a glimpse of Olympics atmosphere sponsored of course by Manulife. During the trip, i will be staying at luxurious Peninsular Hotel. The company already arranged 4 games for us to watch which include Badminton, Ping pong, of course my favourite Beach Volleyball,hehe and finally will be going to Bird Nest Stadium to catch athletics.

The weather is hot and humid over there, but i can't share this once in a lifetime experience with my family members and my love one coz i'm going alone, regulation by company. Luckily, my little sister will back on time to Ipoh this friday to take care of my beloved mama, so that i won't be worried when i'm not at home.

Due to flight cancellation by China Airlines with no specific reason, we have to take Thai Airways, (Tom Yum pls), thus, we have to stay one nite in Bangkok, hurray!!to be honest my favourite so far, since there was no flight back to Kuala Lumpur, so i will be back the next day 20th Aug and touch down at KLIA by 1910 hours.

So take care ad best wishes, no FUWA (official mascots) ok coz my love one already order one, and no ciggarettes too coz my dad will get one and his best fren Mr Chen Kin Min will get one.
I usually don't spend much on trips but i take lots of photos, alots of it everytime. Hoepfully can share with you guys when i get back.

Beijing Huan Ying NI!!!

Game Over in Galaxy

2008-08-12T17:07:00.002+08:00

Galaxy coach Gullit resigns; president/GM Lalas out

LOS ANGELES -Ruud Gullit has resigned as coach of the slumping Los Angeles Galaxy for personal reasons, and president/general manager Alexi Lalas also is out of a job.

"We are stepping up and doing what we need to do to straighten this thing out," Galaxy investor/operator Tim Leiweke told The Associated Press on Monday in announcing the changes.

The Galaxy, led by English star David Beckham and Landon Donovan, are on a seven-match winless streak as they play Chivas USA on Thursday night.

"There are two good people that for different reasons aren't part of this organization today, and that's a shame," Leiweke said. "The fact is, the players have to look deep inside themselves and understand they have to be responsible for some of this.

Maybe David Beckham should think ahead of his career, continue with high pay salary and glamorous lifestyle in Beverly Hills that satisfied his wife, or back to England? The choice is his, best of luck.

Confucius Says...

2008-08-12T16:52:00.003+08:00

Feeling Empowerment

2008-08-10T21:57:00.001+08:00

Do you remember a time when you felt fully empowered - that feeling of being on top of the world, honoring yourself and your values, expressing yourself, your talents and your gifts as you choose, living the life you want. You might feel like this right now, or not. Even if you don't remember a time like this in your life, can you imagine what it would feel like, how freeing it would be?

Empowerment is about owning our power, and it comes from within. No one can give us freedom; we have to claim it for ourselves. The funny thing about life is that when we stop blaming others and circumstances for restricting our lives, we begin to see that we have been our own persecutor, our own judge, our own jailer, and ultimately our own liberator. At first it may seem sad and frustrating, but once we start to free ourselves from our own self-defeating behaviours, beliefs and limitations, the lightness and ease kicks in and we can't help but laugh at how silly it all has been - we see how we?ve lived our lives as though caught in an old episode of the Twilight Zone. All we have to do is change the channel.

Owning more of your power involves being honest with yourself, connecting with who you really are on a deeper level, knowing what your needs and values are, what you like and don?t like, what your passions and priorities are in life. When you know who you are, what you want and where your boundaries are, you feel empowered, confident, peaceful and on purpose in life. You trust yourself and the process of life. You know that everyone and everything that comes into your life has either a gift or a lesson to offer you. And you are able to receive and give openly and generously.

Reflect on these questions to gain insights into your level of empowerment:

* When have you felt empowered in your life - at what times, in what situations, with which people? How did you contribute to this?

* When have you felt disempowered in your life - where, with whom? How did you contribute to this?

* Where do you currently give your power away - in what situations, with whom and why? What are you getting in exchange for your freedom and power (other's attention, approval, love etc.) and is it worth it?

Try these inspiring ideas to increase your feelings of empowerment:

* Imagine fully owning your power in the situations you tend to give it away. What boundaries would you have to set? What would you need to do for yourself to feel safe, accepted and loved in these situations?

* Explore what your needs and values are in life. The things that you need to have or be in order to feel comfortable in life (honesty, order, clarity, acknowledgement etc), and how you like to live and express yourself in life (adventure, beauty, creativity, leadership etc.). Where are you honouring your needs and values in the various aspects of your life? Brainstorm ways you can more fully honour these in all areas of your life.

* Try taking some time to let your imagination show you the possibilities of owning your power and how freeing it is. Start by sitting comfortably with your eyes closed letting your body relax. Imagine filling your whole body and energy space with a clear gold color as a way to fill yourself with your own certainty and power.

Let every cell of your body vibrate with the feelings of enthusiasm and freedom. Then start to imagine what your life can be like when you are fully empowered. Go through a day, a week and even a month or year from the perspective of owning your power and honoring yourself. Notice what you are doing, saying and feeling. Just before coming back to the present moment, ask yourself what it is you most need to do or be in order to take the next step in owning your power.

Emotional Intimacy

2008-08-10T21:54:00.000+08:00

Experiencing emotional intimacy with others is one of the most satisfying experiences of life. Emotional intimacy, or a sense of deep connection with another person or a group of people, occurs when each person is completely open hearted and devoted to taking 100% responsibility for their own feelings and needs. It occurs when each person is deeply connected with his or her own true Self, and connected with a personal source of spiritual guidance. When people are connected with themselves and with a source of love, truth, and wisdom, they become filled with love to share with others.

There is a huge difference between people wanting to get love, intimacy and connection, and wanting to share love, which can happen only when they are each filled with the love from Spirit that comes from taking full responsibility for themselves and doing their inner work. Out of their inner connection and their ability to share love with others comes the fun, the learning, the growth, and the creativity.

Emotional intimacy can also occur when people are open and vulnerable enough to share their fears, pain, and challenges. However, sometimes people get addicted to experiencing emotional intimacy through the sharing of their woundedness, rather than the sharing of their passions, fun, creativity, learning, and joy. While sharing pain can be an important part of a relationship, when it is the only way people experience intimacy, the relationship becomes codependent and dysfunctional.

True intimacy in a relationship comes from a deep commitment with oneself and one's partner to kindness, compassion, presence, integrity, the intent to learn, responsibility for self, and faith in one's own and the other's essential goodness. It is the sweet, comfortable, light, safe feeling that comes from knowing that neither of us is making the other responsible for us in any way - that both of us are fully present with ourselves, with each other, and with Spirit.

Emotional intimacy is the natural outgrowth of developing intimacy with ourselves and our Higher Power. The more inner work we do to heal our fears and beliefs that limit us and learn to be open and honest with ourselves, the more open and authentic we will be with others.

Practicing the Inner Bonding process is a powerful way of developing this intimacy with ourselves and with our partner. Through the daily practice of learning to take full responsibility for our own feelings and needs, we gradually heal our fears and the limiting beliefs that cause our fears of being open, honest and transparent with others. Emotional intimacy is the outgrowth of your devotion to your own inner work.

Emotional intimacy is what takes away loneliness. We may feel lonely when we are alone, and equally lonely when with another or others who are focused in their heads instead of in their hearts. Our western civilization has stressed intellect much more than heart-centered feelings, which is why we are such a lonely society. Our loneliness goes away only when we are able to share our laughter, fun, joy, creativity, honesty, insights, and love with each other. When we are with people who are in their heads rather than their hearts, we may get stuck sharing our woundedness and our complaints, instead of being in the loving creative flow with each other that signifies true emotional intimacy.

Emotional intimacy feeds the heart and soul. Without it in our lives, we will always feel that something is missing. We can learn to connect deeply with ourselves and with our spiritual guidance, but we are social beings, and the sharing of love is the highest, most satisfying experience in life.

The Late George Carlin message

2008-08-07T17:00:00.002+08:00

Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away"

George Carlin

2008 NAMLIFA AKARD AWARDS MEMORIES

2008-08-04T21:22:00.006+08:00

Platinum producers for year 2008

with my agent, yin ping

with my sweetie

of course with ever positive colleagues

receive award from YP Siva, Tapah assemblymen

of course i look much slimmer now

Lying on a Nail

2008-08-03T20:58:00.001+08:00

Once there was a young woman who didn't like her job. Everyday when she came home from work, she told her husband how terrible her day had been, how tiring the work and how unreasonable her boss. "Leave that job," her husband told her.

"Oh I will" she said. "But not yet. I have too many friends there for me to leave just yet." And so she complained until the days became years and her family grew to five. "Leave that job," her children told her. "Oh I will" she said. "But not yet. I have seniority and four weeks vacation I can spend with you. I'm not ready to start over just yet.

And so she remained unhappy at work until the years became decades and her children had children. "Leave that job," her grandchildren told her. "Oh I will," she said. "But not yet. There's only seven more years until I reach thirty years of service and can retire. So I can't just yet."

People who have planted their feet in status quo cement, lacking the courage to move from what is to what could be. People experiencing work like a four letter word and doing nothing to change it.

That's true for people, too. We convince ourselves the pain is not bad enough to leave the workplace we know. But we're wrong. Prolonged work pain is damaging. Some damages our self-esteem, kills our passion or destroys our dreams. Some emerges when we compromise our values, quiet our voice or hide our talent. Some happens when we're seduced by power or believe our own myths of importance and significance. Some occurs when we look the other way, say yes when we mean no or forfeit the promises we made to ourselves.

Wilbur Wright, of the Wright brothers fame, once commented, "We could hardly wait to get up in the morning." I know that exhilarating feeling of being so passionate about something I was working on that I couldn't wait to get back to work. And people who are winning at working know that kind of passion, too.

They get excited about work. They thrive offering their unique gifts and talents. And when things change as they sometimes will, they refuse to let a soul-depleting boss or environment hijack their self-esteem, passion or dreams. When work becomes work, they stop lying on a nail and do something about it.

Jom Ubah

2008-08-02T22:08:00.003+08:00

Change is hard and challenging for most people to deal with. No one likes changes because the brain does not like change.

The brain maintains homeostasis to guard the body from threats. Change is a disruption to this state. The natural reaction to a disruption of homeostasis is for our limbic system to kick in and create a fight or flight response.

Change can also be thought of as emotional pain. The body reacts to emotional pain the same as if it were physical pain. When you introduce a change, people fight to avoid because they think their life depends on it. Simply put, people feel scared, threatened and anxious. These are all reactions caused by the brains response to change.

Change in the brain is represented by new wiring. New wiring is created from insights which happen when we make a new connection in the brain.

Coaching is all about bringing people to new insights, developing new wiring and forming new habits. This process not only helps people deal better with change, but also helps them create changes for themselves, form new life long positive habits and new ways of living.

The brain loves insights. Insights release endorphins - brain chemicals associated with pleasure states. When you have an insight, you are fueled with energy to take action to deal with change or anything else that matters to you.

So, the next time you are faced with change in your life remember what your brain is thinking. Ah ha-now you have an insight-new wiring is forming. Take action. Start creating what really matters to you. Turn your dreams to goals, develop a plan and take action. Be ready to reach your full potential because you will.

Once you understand and accept change, the change process becomes a whole lot easier as will your life in general.

Life is Beautiful

2008-08-01T23:12:00.003+08:00

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end,
be afraid that it will never begin.

Tales of a Cup and Kopi

2008-07-30T23:10:00.002+08:00

Something nice to share…..

'The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.'

A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: 'If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.

In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.'

Now consider this, said the professor, 'Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. Enjoy your coffee!'

The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Four things to take note of in life...

1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.

Enjoy your coffee!!!

Passion equal to Power

2008-07-30T22:51:00.002+08:00

The power to attract a customer is one of the most sought after ideas of our times. Whether you work selling products or services for Fortune 500 companies or you're an entrepreneur you know that attracting Customers is important to your survival. Customer attraction is magical for some and down right hard systematic work for others. But for Customer Passion Evangelist customer attraction is fun, exciting and exhilarating. Serving one customer effectively can lead to hundreds or thousands more just like them.

The number one Focus for every company on earth has been Customer Power. Look at all the books that have been written on the subject of Customers lately and you'll see that Customer Power has become a force to be reckoned with. In previous articles, I've referenced the fact that history has shown us that for generation's people have used all types of power to influence the future direction of civilization. But none has captivated and held an audience of viewers mesmerized like the subject of Customer Power. Why? Because customers have the ability to control the economy and what's more powerful now is that they know it.

Living Customer Power out loud...

Since the launch of the Internet, customers have been taking their position to impressively impact every industry known to man. They know their rights and you know they know. You can see their impact everywhere across the net in blogs and on websites. In the past when a customer complained, their story was only heard by a few within the store. Often times their voice was suppressed and confined to a little brown wooden box called the "Suggestion Box". But now that the customer suggestion box cannot be hidden and has gone public, customers are speaking once but louder than ever as their voice is being captured online for all to see. So how do you deal with customers who know their rights and who understand that they have Customer Power? Listen very carefully...its real simple treat customers with the respect they deserve and always serve them with passion.

Customer Passion the only harness for Customer Power...

Benjamin Franklin through observation asked a question to the clouds that harnessed the power of electricity. Leonardo Da Vinci asked thousands of questions that allowed him to formulate inventions for machines that could not be mass-produced until hundreds of years later. The key to attracting customers is to SERVE them with PASSION and some of my clients are finally starting to get it! SERVED with PASSION.

Failing to SERVE is a problem...Dollar signs in your eyes

The biggest problems we have with customers are not because of them but they are problems within ourselves. Our failure to meet their needs in the ways they need is the biggest problem of them all and this very well might be an inability to see our own faults. If you invent your opportunity, you'll create your future.

why motivation don't work

2008-07-28T21:46:00.002+08:00

A topic that I'm often asked about is how to motivate people. Executives are always looking for ways to improve the attitude and performance of their team.

The answer is that you can't motivate people. It's not that your people are a peculiar breed or that they're an apathetic bunch. The fact is that you can't motivate anyone! Motivation only comes from within. People are only self-motivated. Think of it this way: If you get someone to do something they don't want to do, its coercion. People will only do what they choose to do. Don't take my word for it. Use your own experience with people as your best example. People will generally perform only to a level that matters to them. No amount of threatening, pleading or rewarding will motivate them into action.

Is there no hope for moving people beyond their current state? Not at all. There is a way to make a difference. And it's not a theory. I've seen it work on a regular basis. The key to getting people to rise above their present level of performance is to 1) develop a company culture, 2) recruit to a purpose, and then 3) appeal to that purpose to bring out the best in your people' performance and drive.

Developing a Culture
Most companies have policies and procedures, employee manuals and guidelines, effective marketing messages, and beautiful statements of mission/vision/etc. mounted on the wall. All of those are well and good, but they don't address the matter which has the greatest impact on their business and their teams. They don't address the Purpose of the organization and as such, have no yardstick against which to measure decisions, policies and strategies.

In the absence of a clear Purpose - the "WHY" of the organization - people are simply hired to fill vacancies, policies are developed which are unclear and don't further the attainment of a purpose, systems are lacking, actions are taken which would otherwise be in direct conflict with the Purpose of the organization, and decisions are made inconsistently, without regard to the culture of the organization.

In contrast, a business which has a clear Purpose ("Why"), a Mission ("What"), and a set of Values ("How"), hires smarter, has a consistent set of policies that support its Purpose, has a yardstick to measure its decisions against, has an easier time attracting and retaining the right people, and has the means to develop and deliver a clear marketing message.

Let's define and discuss the implications of having Purpose, Mission and Values in your organization.

Purpose is the "WHY" of the equation. It defines why we do what we do. Each decision and policy should take the business closer to achieving its "WHY".

Mission is the "WHAT" of the equation. It defines what the business will be doing to achieve its Purpose. Staying true to the broad "WHAT" will allow the business to focus on its core activities and strengths.

Values are the "HOW" of the equation. Values define how the Mission will be carried out in an effort to achieve the Purpose.

Purpose:
Purpose defines why we do what we do. It defines why we go to work each day. Without purpose, people just go through the motions and as most of us know, there's a great difference between activity and achievement. Having a clear purpose creates a yardstick, so to speak, to measure our decisions against. It helps us become passionate, helps us to select among the many options presented to us, helps us make better hiring decisions, and keeps us on track. It's possible to succeed without a clear purpose, but having one speeds and magnifies the results.

When a business has a clearly defined purpose it begins to act as a magnet, attracting the kind of people who will further the purpose; people who are like-minded. Not only will having a purpose attract the right people, but it will also act to retain them. This is the power behind the success of many not-for-profit organizations. Although they often are unable to pay their people great sums of money, they continue to attract and retain people who are dedicated and who work hard to achieve the purpose of the organization. While your organization's purpose may not be as altruistic as a not-for-profit's purpose, it definitely plays an important, almost critical, role.

The Power of Self Confidence

2008-07-25T23:41:00.002+08:00

A business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out.Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him. "I can see that something istroubling you," he said. After listening to the executive's woes, theold man said, "I believe I can help you."He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, "Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time."Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed byJohn D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!"I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe.Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out away to save his business, he thought.With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man."I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried. "I hope he hasn't beenbothering you. He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's John D. Rockefeller."And she led the old man away by the arm. The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he'd been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, thathad turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence thatgave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

You Gotta Read this Inspiring Story

2008-07-25T23:29:00.002+08:00

never ever break your promise

My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene.

My only daughter, Sindu, looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age.I cleared my throat and picked up the bowl. 'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear'.Sindu softened a bit and wiped her tears with the back of her hands.

Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...' Sindu hesitated. 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?''Promise'. I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal.

Now I became a bit anxious. 'Sindu, dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. Ok?''No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'. Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity. I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat something that she detested.After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.

Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was her demand.'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'A girl child having her head shaved off? Impossible!''Never in our family!' My mother rasped. 'She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!''Sindu, darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.''Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?' I tried to plead with her.

Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that Curd Rice'. Sindu was in tears. 'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?'It was time for me to call the shots. 'Our promise must be kept.''Are you out of your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.'No. If we go back on ourpromises, she will never learn to honour her own. Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.'With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.

On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, 'Sinduja, please wait for me!' What struck me was the hairless head of that boy.

May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought.'Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!' Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued, 'that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... leukemia'. She paused to muffle her sobs.

Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.'I stood transfixed and then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how selfless real love is!

The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for the ones whom theylove…

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2008-07-23T15:34:00.003+08:00

Published on Sin Chew Jit Poh Perak Edition on 19th July 2008.

Gates' Rules

2008-07-19T09:50:00.001+08:00

adopted from: www.maverickysm.blogspot.com

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 10 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.
Rule 1 :
Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2 :
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3:
You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4:
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5:
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6:
If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7:
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8:
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9:
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10:
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Bonus Rule 11:
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

My Rule No.1:
Get on with life; there's just too much unaccomplished and to be accomplish.

Working for the Right Person

2008-07-19T09:39:00.000+08:00

Getting the work you want, creating your future, developing your skills can be hard, take time, and cost money. But this isn't a generational issue; it's a life-potential issue. We can hold these self-limiting beliefs whether we're Gen-Y, Gen-X, Boomers or Traditionalists.

When we think we work for other people instead of working for ourselves, we're less likely to make the investments in self-development, put in the time and determination, or make the trade-offs necessary to achieve the goals we desire.

When we think we work for "the boss" we're less likely to push ourselves, take on the challenging project, volunteer for extra assignments, or offer the best of who we are to our work, whatever that work may be.

When we work for other people, we're less likely to use our unique gifts to make a difference in our work group, community, or world. And we're less likely to have the internal drive and passion to sustain us through those workplace potholes.

Working for yourself is not about being an entrepreneur, owning your own business, or being self-employed. It's a vision, not a vocation.

You can give away the power over your future to bosses or other influencers in your life, or you can keep that power to fuel your dreams. As Nashua Cavalier put it, "Man's biggest mistake is to believe that he's working for someone else." When you believe you are, that's when work becomes work.

People who are winning at working work for the right person - the one looking back in mirror. That differentiation changes everything. It's easier to know what jobs to seek, skills to enhance, and opportunities to seize. It's easier to know when you should change paths, companies, or bosses. And it's easier to weather workplace stresses when you're the one holding the compass for your life.

People who are winning at working accept the accountability for inventing their future, realizing it's not the boss or the work or the company politics that stand in the way of their success. These can be obstacles to maneuver certainly, but the real obstacles are self-inflicted: fear, limiting beliefs, victim thinking or misplaced perspectives. These are what hold your life-potential in check.

Want to be winning at working? Start working for the right person