Feeling Empowerment

Do you remember a time when you felt fully empowered - that feeling of being on top of the world, honoring yourself and your values, expressing yourself, your talents and your gifts as you choose, living the life you want. You might feel like this right now, or not. Even if you don't remember a time like this in your life, can you imagine what it would feel like, how freeing it would be?

Empowerment is about owning our power, and it comes from within. No one can give us freedom; we have to claim it for ourselves. The funny thing about life is that when we stop blaming others and circumstances for restricting our lives, we begin to see that we have been our own persecutor, our own judge, our own jailer, and ultimately our own liberator. At first it may seem sad and frustrating, but once we start to free ourselves from our own self-defeating behaviours, beliefs and limitations, the lightness and ease kicks in and we can't help but laugh at how silly it all has been - we see how we?ve lived our lives as though caught in an old episode of the Twilight Zone. All we have to do is change the channel.

Owning more of your power involves being honest with yourself, connecting with who you really are on a deeper level, knowing what your needs and values are, what you like and don?t like, what your passions and priorities are in life. When you know who you are, what you want and where your boundaries are, you feel empowered, confident, peaceful and on purpose in life. You trust yourself and the process of life. You know that everyone and everything that comes into your life has either a gift or a lesson to offer you. And you are able to receive and give openly and generously.

Reflect on these questions to gain insights into your level of empowerment:

* When have you felt empowered in your life - at what times, in what situations, with which people? How did you contribute to this?

* When have you felt disempowered in your life - where, with whom? How did you contribute to this?

* Where do you currently give your power away - in what situations, with whom and why? What are you getting in exchange for your freedom and power (other's attention, approval, love etc.) and is it worth it?

Try these inspiring ideas to increase your feelings of empowerment:

* Imagine fully owning your power in the situations you tend to give it away. What boundaries would you have to set? What would you need to do for yourself to feel safe, accepted and loved in these situations?

* Explore what your needs and values are in life. The things that you need to have or be in order to feel comfortable in life (honesty, order, clarity, acknowledgement etc), and how you like to live and express yourself in life (adventure, beauty, creativity, leadership etc.). Where are you honouring your needs and values in the various aspects of your life? Brainstorm ways you can more fully honour these in all areas of your life.

* Try taking some time to let your imagination show you the possibilities of owning your power and how freeing it is. Start by sitting comfortably with your eyes closed letting your body relax. Imagine filling your whole body and energy space with a clear gold color as a way to fill yourself with your own certainty and power.

Let every cell of your body vibrate with the feelings of enthusiasm and freedom. Then start to imagine what your life can be like when you are fully empowered. Go through a day, a week and even a month or year from the perspective of owning your power and honoring yourself. Notice what you are doing, saying and feeling. Just before coming back to the present moment, ask yourself what it is you most need to do or be in order to take the next step in owning your power.

Emotional Intimacy

Experiencing emotional intimacy with others is one of the most satisfying experiences of life. Emotional intimacy, or a sense of deep connection with another person or a group of people, occurs when each person is completely open hearted and devoted to taking 100% responsibility for their own feelings and needs. It occurs when each person is deeply connected with his or her own true Self, and connected with a personal source of spiritual guidance. When people are connected with themselves and with a source of love, truth, and wisdom, they become filled with love to share with others.

There is a huge difference between people wanting to get love, intimacy and connection, and wanting to share love, which can happen only when they are each filled with the love from Spirit that comes from taking full responsibility for themselves and doing their inner work. Out of their inner connection and their ability to share love with others comes the fun, the learning, the growth, and the creativity.

Emotional intimacy can also occur when people are open and vulnerable enough to share their fears, pain, and challenges. However, sometimes people get addicted to experiencing emotional intimacy through the sharing of their woundedness, rather than the sharing of their passions, fun, creativity, learning, and joy. While sharing pain can be an important part of a relationship, when it is the only way people experience intimacy, the relationship becomes codependent and dysfunctional.

True intimacy in a relationship comes from a deep commitment with oneself and one's partner to kindness, compassion, presence, integrity, the intent to learn, responsibility for self, and faith in one's own and the other's essential goodness. It is the sweet, comfortable, light, safe feeling that comes from knowing that neither of us is making the other responsible for us in any way - that both of us are fully present with ourselves, with each other, and with Spirit.

Emotional intimacy is the natural outgrowth of developing intimacy with ourselves and our Higher Power. The more inner work we do to heal our fears and beliefs that limit us and learn to be open and honest with ourselves, the more open and authentic we will be with others.

Practicing the Inner Bonding process is a powerful way of developing this intimacy with ourselves and with our partner. Through the daily practice of learning to take full responsibility for our own feelings and needs, we gradually heal our fears and the limiting beliefs that cause our fears of being open, honest and transparent with others. Emotional intimacy is the outgrowth of your devotion to your own inner work.

Emotional intimacy is what takes away loneliness. We may feel lonely when we are alone, and equally lonely when with another or others who are focused in their heads instead of in their hearts. Our western civilization has stressed intellect much more than heart-centered feelings, which is why we are such a lonely society. Our loneliness goes away only when we are able to share our laughter, fun, joy, creativity, honesty, insights, and love with each other. When we are with people who are in their heads rather than their hearts, we may get stuck sharing our woundedness and our complaints, instead of being in the loving creative flow with each other that signifies true emotional intimacy.

Emotional intimacy feeds the heart and soul. Without it in our lives, we will always feel that something is missing. We can learn to connect deeply with ourselves and with our spiritual guidance, but we are social beings, and the sharing of love is the highest, most satisfying experience in life.

The Late George Carlin message

Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away"

George Carlin

2008 NAMLIFA AKARD AWARDS MEMORIES

Platinum producers for year 2008

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receive award from YP Siva, Tapah assemblymen

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Lying on a Nail

Once there was a young woman who didn't like her job. Everyday when she came home from work, she told her husband how terrible her day had been, how tiring the work and how unreasonable her boss. "Leave that job," her husband told her.

"Oh I will" she said. "But not yet. I have too many friends there for me to leave just yet." And so she complained until the days became years and her family grew to five. "Leave that job," her children told her. "Oh I will" she said. "But not yet. I have seniority and four weeks vacation I can spend with you. I'm not ready to start over just yet.

And so she remained unhappy at work until the years became decades and her children had children. "Leave that job," her grandchildren told her. "Oh I will," she said. "But not yet. There's only seven more years until I reach thirty years of service and can retire. So I can't just yet."

People who have planted their feet in status quo cement, lacking the courage to move from what is to what could be. People experiencing work like a four letter word and doing nothing to change it.

That's true for people, too. We convince ourselves the pain is not bad enough to leave the workplace we know. But we're wrong. Prolonged work pain is damaging. Some damages our self-esteem, kills our passion or destroys our dreams. Some emerges when we compromise our values, quiet our voice or hide our talent. Some happens when we're seduced by power or believe our own myths of importance and significance. Some occurs when we look the other way, say yes when we mean no or forfeit the promises we made to ourselves.

Wilbur Wright, of the Wright brothers fame, once commented, "We could hardly wait to get up in the morning." I know that exhilarating feeling of being so passionate about something I was working on that I couldn't wait to get back to work. And people who are winning at working know that kind of passion, too.

They get excited about work. They thrive offering their unique gifts and talents. And when things change as they sometimes will, they refuse to let a soul-depleting boss or environment hijack their self-esteem, passion or dreams. When work becomes work, they stop lying on a nail and do something about it.

Jom Ubah

Change is hard and challenging for most people to deal with. No one likes changes because the brain does not like change.

The brain maintains homeostasis to guard the body from threats. Change is a disruption to this state. The natural reaction to a disruption of homeostasis is for our limbic system to kick in and create a fight or flight response.

Change can also be thought of as emotional pain. The body reacts to emotional pain the same as if it were physical pain. When you introduce a change, people fight to avoid because they think their life depends on it. Simply put, people feel scared, threatened and anxious. These are all reactions caused by the brains response to change.

Change in the brain is represented by new wiring. New wiring is created from insights which happen when we make a new connection in the brain.

Coaching is all about bringing people to new insights, developing new wiring and forming new habits. This process not only helps people deal better with change, but also helps them create changes for themselves, form new life long positive habits and new ways of living.

The brain loves insights. Insights release endorphins - brain chemicals associated with pleasure states. When you have an insight, you are fueled with energy to take action to deal with change or anything else that matters to you.

So, the next time you are faced with change in your life remember what your brain is thinking. Ah ha-now you have an insight-new wiring is forming. Take action. Start creating what really matters to you. Turn your dreams to goals, develop a plan and take action. Be ready to reach your full potential because you will.

Once you understand and accept change, the change process becomes a whole lot easier as will your life in general.

Life is Beautiful

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end,
be afraid that it will never begin.

Tales of a Cup and Kopi

Something nice to share…..

'The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.'

A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: 'If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.

In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.'

Now consider this, said the professor, 'Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. Enjoy your coffee!'

The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Four things to take note of in life...

1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.

Enjoy your coffee!!!

Passion equal to Power

The power to attract a customer is one of the most sought after ideas of our times. Whether you work selling products or services for Fortune 500 companies or you're an entrepreneur you know that attracting Customers is important to your survival. Customer attraction is magical for some and down right hard systematic work for others. But for Customer Passion Evangelist customer attraction is fun, exciting and exhilarating. Serving one customer effectively can lead to hundreds or thousands more just like them.

The number one Focus for every company on earth has been Customer Power. Look at all the books that have been written on the subject of Customers lately and you'll see that Customer Power has become a force to be reckoned with. In previous articles, I've referenced the fact that history has shown us that for generation's people have used all types of power to influence the future direction of civilization. But none has captivated and held an audience of viewers mesmerized like the subject of Customer Power. Why? Because customers have the ability to control the economy and what's more powerful now is that they know it.

Living Customer Power out loud...

Since the launch of the Internet, customers have been taking their position to impressively impact every industry known to man. They know their rights and you know they know. You can see their impact everywhere across the net in blogs and on websites. In the past when a customer complained, their story was only heard by a few within the store. Often times their voice was suppressed and confined to a little brown wooden box called the "Suggestion Box". But now that the customer suggestion box cannot be hidden and has gone public, customers are speaking once but louder than ever as their voice is being captured online for all to see. So how do you deal with customers who know their rights and who understand that they have Customer Power? Listen very carefully...its real simple treat customers with the respect they deserve and always serve them with passion.

Customer Passion the only harness for Customer Power...

Benjamin Franklin through observation asked a question to the clouds that harnessed the power of electricity. Leonardo Da Vinci asked thousands of questions that allowed him to formulate inventions for machines that could not be mass-produced until hundreds of years later. The key to attracting customers is to SERVE them with PASSION and some of my clients are finally starting to get it! SERVED with PASSION.

Failing to SERVE is a problem...Dollar signs in your eyes

The biggest problems we have with customers are not because of them but they are problems within ourselves. Our failure to meet their needs in the ways they need is the biggest problem of them all and this very well might be an inability to see our own faults. If you invent your opportunity, you'll create your future.

why motivation don't work

A topic that I'm often asked about is how to motivate people. Executives are always looking for ways to improve the attitude and performance of their team.

The answer is that you can't motivate people. It's not that your people are a peculiar breed or that they're an apathetic bunch. The fact is that you can't motivate anyone! Motivation only comes from within. People are only self-motivated. Think of it this way: If you get someone to do something they don't want to do, its coercion. People will only do what they choose to do. Don't take my word for it. Use your own experience with people as your best example. People will generally perform only to a level that matters to them. No amount of threatening, pleading or rewarding will motivate them into action.

Is there no hope for moving people beyond their current state? Not at all. There is a way to make a difference. And it's not a theory. I've seen it work on a regular basis. The key to getting people to rise above their present level of performance is to 1) develop a company culture, 2) recruit to a purpose, and then 3) appeal to that purpose to bring out the best in your people' performance and drive.

Developing a Culture
Most companies have policies and procedures, employee manuals and guidelines, effective marketing messages, and beautiful statements of mission/vision/etc. mounted on the wall. All of those are well and good, but they don't address the matter which has the greatest impact on their business and their teams. They don't address the Purpose of the organization and as such, have no yardstick against which to measure decisions, policies and strategies.

In the absence of a clear Purpose - the "WHY" of the organization - people are simply hired to fill vacancies, policies are developed which are unclear and don't further the attainment of a purpose, systems are lacking, actions are taken which would otherwise be in direct conflict with the Purpose of the organization, and decisions are made inconsistently, without regard to the culture of the organization.

In contrast, a business which has a clear Purpose ("Why"), a Mission ("What"), and a set of Values ("How"), hires smarter, has a consistent set of policies that support its Purpose, has a yardstick to measure its decisions against, has an easier time attracting and retaining the right people, and has the means to develop and deliver a clear marketing message.

Let's define and discuss the implications of having Purpose, Mission and Values in your organization.

Purpose is the "WHY" of the equation. It defines why we do what we do. Each decision and policy should take the business closer to achieving its "WHY".

Mission is the "WHAT" of the equation. It defines what the business will be doing to achieve its Purpose. Staying true to the broad "WHAT" will allow the business to focus on its core activities and strengths.

Values are the "HOW" of the equation. Values define how the Mission will be carried out in an effort to achieve the Purpose.

Purpose:
Purpose defines why we do what we do. It defines why we go to work each day. Without purpose, people just go through the motions and as most of us know, there's a great difference between activity and achievement. Having a clear purpose creates a yardstick, so to speak, to measure our decisions against. It helps us become passionate, helps us to select among the many options presented to us, helps us make better hiring decisions, and keeps us on track. It's possible to succeed without a clear purpose, but having one speeds and magnifies the results.

When a business has a clearly defined purpose it begins to act as a magnet, attracting the kind of people who will further the purpose; people who are like-minded. Not only will having a purpose attract the right people, but it will also act to retain them. This is the power behind the success of many not-for-profit organizations. Although they often are unable to pay their people great sums of money, they continue to attract and retain people who are dedicated and who work hard to achieve the purpose of the organization. While your organization's purpose may not be as altruistic as a not-for-profit's purpose, it definitely plays an important, almost critical, role.

The Power of Self Confidence

A business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out.Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him. "I can see that something istroubling you," he said. After listening to the executive's woes, theold man said, "I believe I can help you."He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, "Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time."Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed byJohn D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!"I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe.Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out away to save his business, he thought.With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man."I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried. "I hope he hasn't beenbothering you. He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's John D. Rockefeller."And she led the old man away by the arm. The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he'd been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, thathad turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence thatgave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

You Gotta Read this Inspiring Story

never ever break your promise

My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene.

My only daughter, Sindu, looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age.I cleared my throat and picked up the bowl. 'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear'.Sindu softened a bit and wiped her tears with the back of her hands.

Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...' Sindu hesitated. 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?''Promise'. I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal.

Now I became a bit anxious. 'Sindu, dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. Ok?''No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'. Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity. I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat something that she detested.After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.

Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was her demand.'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'A girl child having her head shaved off? Impossible!''Never in our family!' My mother rasped. 'She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!''Sindu, darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.''Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?' I tried to plead with her.

Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that Curd Rice'. Sindu was in tears. 'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?'It was time for me to call the shots. 'Our promise must be kept.''Are you out of your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.'No. If we go back on ourpromises, she will never learn to honour her own. Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.'With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.

On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, 'Sinduja, please wait for me!' What struck me was the hairless head of that boy.

May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought.'Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!' Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued, 'that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... leukemia'. She paused to muffle her sobs.

Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.'I stood transfixed and then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how selfless real love is!

The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for the ones whom theylove…

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Published on Sin Chew Jit Poh Perak Edition on 19th July 2008.

Gates' Rules

adopted from: www.maverickysm.blogspot.com

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 10 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.
Rule 1 :
Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2 :
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3:
You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4:
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5:
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6:
If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7:
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8:
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9:
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10:
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Bonus Rule 11:
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

My Rule No.1:
Get on with life; there's just too much unaccomplished and to be accomplish.

Working for the Right Person

Getting the work you want, creating your future, developing your skills can be hard, take time, and cost money. But this isn't a generational issue; it's a life-potential issue. We can hold these self-limiting beliefs whether we're Gen-Y, Gen-X, Boomers or Traditionalists.

When we think we work for other people instead of working for ourselves, we're less likely to make the investments in self-development, put in the time and determination, or make the trade-offs necessary to achieve the goals we desire.

When we think we work for "the boss" we're less likely to push ourselves, take on the challenging project, volunteer for extra assignments, or offer the best of who we are to our work, whatever that work may be.

When we work for other people, we're less likely to use our unique gifts to make a difference in our work group, community, or world. And we're less likely to have the internal drive and passion to sustain us through those workplace potholes.

Working for yourself is not about being an entrepreneur, owning your own business, or being self-employed. It's a vision, not a vocation.

You can give away the power over your future to bosses or other influencers in your life, or you can keep that power to fuel your dreams. As Nashua Cavalier put it, "Man's biggest mistake is to believe that he's working for someone else." When you believe you are, that's when work becomes work.

People who are winning at working work for the right person - the one looking back in mirror. That differentiation changes everything. It's easier to know what jobs to seek, skills to enhance, and opportunities to seize. It's easier to know when you should change paths, companies, or bosses. And it's easier to weather workplace stresses when you're the one holding the compass for your life.

People who are winning at working accept the accountability for inventing their future, realizing it's not the boss or the work or the company politics that stand in the way of their success. These can be obstacles to maneuver certainly, but the real obstacles are self-inflicted: fear, limiting beliefs, victim thinking or misplaced perspectives. These are what hold your life-potential in check.

Want to be winning at working? Start working for the right person

Smile...

Like the power of electricity, your smile is full of electric energy. Sending warm currents of joy everywhere it's released. The Power Smile will show you how to influence the world and take back your future.

It's in your smile...
The depth of what kind of person you are is in your smile. If we could ask Leonardo Da Vinci about the magic of the Mona Lisa he'd probably never tell, but the secret is... it's in her smile. There trapped underneath the skin and locked in the muscle is a secret that's been hidden for generations inside that little smile of yours. So if you have a minute, I'd like to introduce you to my little friend that is more influential than a dozen Mona Lisa's in all the museums in the world.

How the smile influences...
These days, everybody's talking about influence from Dr. Robert Cialdini, who wrote the book "Influence" to my friend Dave Lakhani author of "Persuasion". But the way you influence the world, your life, and your entire future are all rolled up and hidden inside that smile of yours. All of your joy, all of your happiness, and every bit of your enthusiasm can be unleashed at your own will. You have so much control over where you're going and how fast you'll get there, you might be surprised.

Get your smiling benefits...
So what are the benefits of the Power smile? There are many, but one major influential benefit is that you can change and alter your emotional state. That's right you can influence how happy you are. Everywhere I speak to audiences they're impressed to know they control the ---Happy Meter--- inside of themselves. Soon you'll be practicing this virtually unknown little secret all the time. When people ask me why I smile so much, I tell them "because smiling triggers and releases endorphins in the brain". And that release sends a wave of happiness through out your entire body.

Power smiling builds your self-esteem
There are many times you'll be standing in front of a mirror today so let those be the moments you Power Smile. In the bathroom at home, school or work, look at yourself... Power smile and accept that you're changing your future smile by smile. Each smile at yourself builds inner confidence, and every smile at anyone else builds stronger relationships. Now when others smile back at you you're on the road to greatness. Soon enough, you'll find yourself smiling all the time and feeling so much better. Smiling carries with it the Law of Sowing and Reaping and the Law of Attraction. As you sow smiling you reap the harvest of smiles from others, and this in turn builds up your self-esteem. You begin to attract to yourself those who smile and I've found those who smile often are so much easier to get along with because they're happier.

Mexico to host 2010 WC?

Mexico is ready and willing to host the 2010 World Cup should South Africa be unable to host the event, according to the general secretary of the nation's governing body Decio De Maria.

FIFA president Sepp Blatter recently claimed three countries were in line to step in should South Africa not be ready for the tournament in two years' time.

Fears over South Africa's preparations have arisen since it emerged the new stadium in Port Elizabeth had fallen behind schedule and would not be ready in time to stage Confederations Cup games next summer.

The Mexican Football Federation (FMF) won the rights to host the 2011 Under-17 World Cup and De Maria said with work well underway to improve the nation's stadia they would be equipped to host FIFA's showpiece event if required.

'We have said it more than once. We enjoy being hosts, we have the stadiums and, if it happens, we will be ready to the call,' De Maria told goal.com.

'We have already raised our hand. They gave us the organisation of the Under-17 World Cup and now we have to wait FIFA's final decision.

'We have always mentioned that we are a country with infrastructure, with resources and with great fans.

'For that we made a huge work to host the Under-17 tournament in 2011. Mexico's credentials are there.'

Mexico has hosted two World Cup tournaments previously - in 1970 and 1986.

No Confidence on Proton

Proton's highly publicised campaign to hike sales appears to have hit a road block, with drivers saying they will snub the national carmaker in favour of foreign models.

Proton last month launched a 'zero-defect' campaign aimed at erasing a persistent reputation for poor quality that has left it struggling to compete against Japanese and European carmakers.
Proton managing director Syed Zainal Abidin also announced plans to fit all models with natural gas tanks from October to help motorists beat the rising cost of fuel - following a 41 percent petrol price hike here last month. But a snapshot of consumers in Kuala Lumpur by AFP on the weekend shows many critical of the carmaker after a string of bad experiences.

Source: Malaysiakini

Hello Proton Malaysia, after 23 years of experience, seem not to have grown up as expected and compete competitively against others car manufacturers, not to mention European countries manufacturers but against Korean and Japan cars.

Yup, car prices is important factors when people make their decisions, but cheap doesn't necessarily comes with quality, it seem Proton still lack in this criteria after been so long in this business.

People rather pay more for a quality car especially middle income people where the cost of "kereta rosak" on roadside is very expensive which you might miss out with your customer appointment. Besides the design is still "boleh tahan" lah and even in my opinion Perodua is doing much much better.

Thanks PROTON for your 23 years of good solid job and now people have no confidence.

Sunday Joke

Life Lesson

Make sense! When we are really in deep shit, it is better our mouth shut and get on with our turnaround job, sound easy and never easy when we carry it out. Best of Luck!

Teamwork is No 1

Are you Travel or On a Journey?

"When people are just traveling, they start out with the notion they're gonna end up someplace by a certain time. They get together what they think they'll need and head out. They stop for fuel if they're driving. Maybe they stop for food or maybe they pack their own so's to limit the stops. If a detour comes up on the highway or there's a traffic jam, they get upset. They don't like anything to slow 'em up. They're on a schedule.

"A person on a journey prepares the basics as well, but doesn't have a schedule...not as such. That person is willing, if not enthusiastic, about enjoying every second. Might create detours just to see what's there. Maybe pulls over to watch a sunrise or sunset. Might get out in a rain shower to feel the cool drops on their skin...taste the rain. That kind of person will stop along the way just to talk to people, have a new experience. You can tell a lot about how a person moves through life by how they travel."

Are you just traveling through life or are you on a journey? The difference is there are people who just "do" life...the job, the bills, the routines...basically just traveling from one point or moment to the next without full appreciation of the simple fact that we have moments. And there are those who live. They see every moment as an opportunity to expand their understanding, opportunities, and who they are.

One of the quickest ways to live more fully is to agree to be fully present with what you're doing. That means having your heart, mind, emotions, and your ability to manage them for the most productive outcome, awake and in tune.

We have a tendency to think about other things while we do other things. Have you ever wished you'd been paying attention when something happened and you missed it? We do this all the time. We multi-task our brains, our emotions, and our lives instead of linking moments from one to the next like precious pearls on a strong thread.

Listening to others and our true selves with more than our ears opens our life experience into an adventure, a journey. Being anywhere other than where we are and who we're with is a form of just passing through, like towns we pass on a highway with barely a glimpse or curiosity.

Are you traveling or are you on a journey?

The Pursuit of Happiness 2

During this current age where depression, anxiety, angerness, lack of tolerance and much more related symptoms are very common among peoples, I always think of happiness. I think that happiness is a feeling rather than a thing that we need to borrow or to snatch it from some other person. Feeling depends on the sensitivity of a person so it varies from an individual to another. If there are shops which sell happiness then it must be one of the most expensive product of this century.

In spite of frustration and negative approach we need to find out the sources of happiness and to rise the sense of its feeling in us. Good relationships, helping poors and needy peoples, believe in religion, visiting attractive places, money, purposeful life, positive thoughts are the sources of happiness. I analyzed that all above factors contribute in giving happiness to many peoples belonging to different casts, religions and races.

Money as a source of happiness is controversial among many peoples as a lot of peoples which are rich but not happy. In developed countries money become a part of their life rather than a need. I have seen many poor peoples which got happiness by getting money because money is their need. Helping poor and needy people or poor relatives will give us internal satisfaction of being a good human and this intern gives us happiness.

The strong and close relationship with family peoples and friends also provide us happiness. Our mental development in childhood play a major role in our psychic development. It is how a child learn from his family members, most probably from his parents to sense the happiness. I observed that some people don't get happy by little success because of their childhood development during which they didn't learn to feel happiness on little success.

To believe in GOD also provide us mental happiness. I observed that people attached with their religion seems to be more happy than others as religion makes our life purposeful. The way you think also effects your happiness level. Positive thinking always produces hope and satisfaction which enhance happiness in us.

If you are still not so much happy than you must be lacking many of above habits. The happiness is waiting to enter in your life but if you try to give you life, a positive change which are described above.

Build Rapport and Increase Closing Ratio

Product knowledge is important in selling insurance. Understanding how to uncover your prospect's needs and then determining which product will best address those needs is critical. But as we've heard before, people buy from people they like. People buy Benefits, not Features ... and they're more likely to believe in the benefits you offer when they like you, trust you, and can relate to you. A key to effective communications is understanding and applying your knowledge of the four social styles - Analytical, Commander, Expressive, & Stabilizer (A.C.E.S.). In this article we'll touch on each of the four styles, how they think and act, how to read your prospects to spot their style(s), and what to do once you know who you're talking to.

The Four Faces of A.C.E.S.
Let's spend some time talking about the traits of each style. We'll briefly go into the strengths and weakness of each one. (No one style is better than another.)

Analyticals are just that - very analytical. They seek perfection. They're organized, detail-minded, and somewhat idealistic. Analyticals tend to be perfectionists. They are good planners and schedulers, and can be creative and somewhat musical. Analyticals are sensitive, intellectual and tend to be conservative. Their weaknesses show up in a number of ways. Analyticals can become easily depressed. They often are moody and sarcastic. Because of their idealistic, perfectionist tendencies, they often are hard to please and can be fussy. Analyticals can be suspicious, skeptical, unpopular and unsociable.

Commanders are natural leaders. They seek control. They are high achievers, can be bold and assertive, and are often very competitive. They're driven and goal-oriented, resourceful, strong-willed, and tenacious. Commanders are independent, perceptive, outspoken, and productive. Their flip side, or weaknesses, can show up as being overly controlling and bossy. They can be egocentric, headstrong, and short-tempered. Sometimes Commanders are insensitive, intolerant, and/or tactless. Many of them are workaholics.

Expressives are people. They seek fun. They're animated, cheerful, and enthusiastic. Expressives mix easily, are spontaneous, and often are playful. You'll frequently see Expressives as popular and sociable. As fun as they are to be around, Expressives have their share of weaknesses, too. They can be loud and overly talkative, and when they explain things may often exaggerate and/or generalize. They can be messy, undisciplined and unfocused. Sometimes they're alarmists and impulsive in their decisions and actions.

Stabilizers are relationship builders. They seek peace. You'll often see then as accommodating, considerate and easy-going. Stabilizers are great listeners, patient, and soft-spoken. They have strengths as mediators, counselors and can be diplomatic. Even though they're excellent at keeping the boat from rocking, they, too, have weaknesses. Stabilizers avoid conflict, sometimes at any cost. They can be too compromising, indifferent, and timid. Sometimes Stabilizers will be uninvolved, noncommittal, and emotionless. They aren't goal-oriented, so they are often weak at goal setting, can be aimless, and un-ambitious.

Playing Your Hand
How can you use the knowledge to improve your ability to build rapport and close more sales? Remember not to follow the Golden Rule! (Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.) Instead of communicating in the style you're most comfortable in, work on communicating in the style they're most comfortable in. With Analyticals, use facts and figures. Details matter. They're the ones that, when they say, "Let me think about it," they really mean it! Don't go too fast, be too pushy, be inaccurate, or be too light-hearted. With Commanders, get to the bottom line. Don't burden them with the details (yet), just have them ready if asked for. Don't let your presentation ramble - stay on track and make your point. They don't want their time wasted. With Expressive, details make them glassy eyed. Keep your presentation light, colorful, and somewhat entertaining. They'll buy because they had a good time with you, rather than on the logic. With Stabilizers, relationships rule. If you get right into your business, they won't connect with you. They want to connect with you. They want to have you understand them and they want to understand you. Don't rush them, and "work together", to solve a problem.

Summing Things Up
If you truly want to have a thriving book of business, you need to understand people and have them connect with you. Study the traits of the four social styles (Analytical, Commander, Expressive, Stabilizer). Practice picking up clues from prospect's clothing, body language, surroundings, and speech. Then, make a conscious effort to modify what you say and how you say it to match your prospect's social style(s). You'll connect more easily and comfortably, and you'll see your closing ratios climb

Big Phil seal Deco deal

Portugal playmaker Deco immediately set his sights on Premier League and European glory after joining Chelsea tonight.

The Brazil-born player is the club's first signing since the appointment of Luiz Felipe Scolari as manager and he is believed to have cost around £8million. Deco's move will see him link up once again with Scolari, his national coach at Euro 2008, and another Portugal team-mate in Jose Bosingwa, who signed for the club earlier in the summer.

The two-time Champions League-winner had been linked with Inter Milan, where his former Porto boss Jose Mourinho is now manager, but the Italians appear to have been put off by the price. Chelsea, however, seem to have negotiated the fee down to sign Deco on what is thought to be a two-year deal.

New coach Scolari officially starts work at Chelsea tomorrow morning and will undoubtedly be happy with the club's transfer business so far.

Deco's arrival significantly boosts a midfield talent pool already boasting the likes of Frank Lampard, Michael Ballack, Michael Essien, Mikel Jon Obi and Claude Makelele. Yet Scolari is likely to have a busy first week ahead of him with top priority likely to be persuading England international Lampard and defender Ricardo Carvalho to stay.

How far can Big Phil go with Chelsea Big egos, time will tell but definitely his character and personality is fun to watch definitely. Although i still miss The Special One, but hey, whatever goes around comes around. Big Phil, best of luck...

Value - Oriented Kids

In a consumer-driven society that broadcasts values that don’t reflect what you believe, how can fathers teach values to their kids? Here are ten ideas to help you:

1) Tell them your life stories and teach through your stories

Kids love to hear stories about your childhood. Weave in some moral dilemmas and you’ve got great opportunities to teach values to them. It certainly beats lecturing your kids!

2) Live your own life according to your values—walk the talk.

Kids learn by imitating, especially at a young age. They are very adept at seeing if what you say and what you do are matching up. Don’t give them confusing signals; follow your own values every moment.

3)Expose them to your religion or faith.

It seems especially important today to let them know that they’re not alone. Providing your kids with a community of faith will strengthen their values and provide parents some “leverage”

4) Pay attention to who else might be teaching values to your kids

Get to know your child’s teachers, coaches, relatives, etc. Anyone who spends time with your kids may be influencing them. Know their values and beliefs as well.

5) Ask your kids questions that will stimulate dialogue about values

Telling them what values they should have won’t always be effective, especially when your kids get older. Asking them “curious” questions will allow discussions that will eventually lead to values. “What did you think about that fight,” may be more effective than, “He shouldn’t have started that fight!”

6) Talk to them about values in a relaxed and easy way

Nothing will turn your kids off more than preaching values to them after they’ve screwed up!

7) Talk to them when everyone’s relaxed, and do it in a light, conversational manner.

They’ll be much more likely to be listening rather than tuning you out.

8) Read them fairy tales when they’re younger

Fairy tales capture the imagination of kids and can easily lead to a discussion of values. Kids will learn the most concerning values when they’re excited about the topic.

9) Involve your kids in art, activities, or helping others while limiting TV and video games

Kids learn values when they experience them. Allow them to experience helping others and involve them in activities that will expand their creativity.

10) Have frequent conversations about values in your household

This lets your kids know that it’s important and it’s not just something you talk about when they do something wrong.

11) Have high expectations for your kids’ value systems

Kids will tend to rise to the level of expectation you have for them. Their value system will often reflect yours if the expectations are high.

Love Risk

The only way to guarantee that you get anywhere in life is to take risks. You might get lucky and be handed a million dollars, but more than likely that will never happen. Now if you bought a lottery ticket and won a million dollars, then you won because you took a risk by buying a ticket. By taking a risk you give yourself a chance to win.

It is comfortable not taking any risks. People who don't take risks feel secure where they are in life. It means they aren't losing anything. Risk taking requires that you give something up. You have to sacrifice time, money or both. Sometimes risking something can bring you rewards that make it worth the sacrifice. This is why we take risks. I mean who wouldn't want double, triple or one hundred times the amount that you risked?

Risking is you deciding that you want to get something. Deciding to take chances in life is probably one of the hardest things to do, but the alternative is also the hardest to live with. If you decide not to take a chance then you may stay exactly where you are. Not taking a chance means you don't get what you want. Without a risk your chance of success is zero.

There is no guarantee that you will win but you can increase your chances by using the "shotgun approach." Hunters use shotguns because the bullet is actually in many pieces and there is a chance that one of those pieces will hit the target. This approach can be used in anything that you do in life. If you ask several friends to go to a game with you, the chances are that at least one person will go.

Life is always about risks. You may not be aware of it but you take risks everyday. You take a risk just walking down the street or driving in your car. Anything can happen to you. The thing to keep in mind is to take risks that are in your favor. Try to take risks that improve your situation or provide you with a way to have a better life.

Ultimate School Classroom

You have probably heard it said that someone went to the “school of hard knocks.” This, of course, means that they may not have had any formal education, but they learned a lot from living their life. Life is, in fact, the best teacher any of us will ever have. Our past is the lesson, our present is the exam, and our future will be the grades we receive.

If we do not learn from the mistakes we have made in the past, we will fail the exam, and our future will be the same as our past. Just like in school, those who do not learn the lessons have to repeat a grade over and over again. It has been said that the definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing while expecting a different result. If you make a mistake, it can either be the end of your efforts or the fertilizer that will make your dreams grow in the future.

Studying history is as much about where we are going as where we have been. Those who do not learn from history are destined to repeat it. I am a big fan of my fellow Oklahoman Will Rogers. He wrote many extremely timely newspaper columns and editorials during the 1920s and early 1930s. He was one of the most respected minds and voices of his time. But maybe the most significant thing about Will Rogers’ commentaries is that so many of them are still valid and speak to us today. If you look back at any point in history, you will find that people were struggling with the same things that you and I struggle with today. We have a number of new technological advances that make our lives faster and more convenient, but the issues facing humanity remain the same. A wise person learns from their own mistakes. An even wiser person will learn from the mistakes of others without having to go through the experience themselves.

If you watch professional golfers, either on television or in person, you will see that they observe the line and breaks on the green as other golfers are putting. This is known as “going to school” on the other golfers. We need to do this in our own personal and professional lives. Human beings are unique in that we can build on one another’s accomplishments and learn from one another’s mistakes. As you go through your day today, turn mistakes into lessons and lessons into future success.

Today’s the day!

Hero in your ownself

So many of us have heroes. Leaders, artists or entreprenuers that inspire us. People who have made an impact, people who have shown us a better way, people who have overcome outrageous odds. Yet, the interesting insight about heroes is that they have the human imperfections and weaknesses that we do. They have their bad days, they feel despair, they get knocked down (in fact, heroes get knocked down more than the rest of us).

Yet, in spite of their human frailties, heroes find a way to change the world. Here's my challenge to you be your own hero. Ask yourself, what would it take for me to show up in the world like my heroes? You may never discover a life changing medicine, invent a best-in-class product or win the World Cup. But, you can show up every day with discipline, compassion and extraordinary commitment. So, in your journal, go through the following steps and take the hero's journey.

1. List three to five of your heros.

2. For each hero write down the traits that you admire. Is it Steve Nash's selflessness on the court? Is it Martin Luther King's commitment to civil rights? Is it Richard Branson's vison?

3. Then translate these traits into your life. Can you be more selfless at work? Can you make an unshakeable commitment to doing the right thing? Can you create a powerful vision for your life and pursue it?

4. Write these traits down on a card or better yet on a picture of that hero. Remind yourself to act like that hero. This way your hero becomes your mentor even if you'll never meet them.

5. Then go into your days and live like the hero you are.

Royal Selangor Club Memories

I just get the pictures that the company snapped during the Agency Fellowship Nite at Royal Selangor Club, Kuala Lumpur recently and i would like to share with you guys.

picture with Regional Head, Mr Francis Tan

standing with AD John Kiu, RH Mr Teng, of course me, RH Francis Tan and AD Mr Chow

received token of appreciation from RH Francis Tan

May it will inspire me to achieve more in my career, never easy but will seize that one moment in life to make it happen for myself and beloved family members. Thanks once again to Manulife to allow me to share some thoughts with the rest Manulifers and will never ever let each one of you down. Take care, GAMBATEH! Wish all of you enjoy your career and make it happen, don't blame the world for oil prices increase BUT we ourselves adapt to the increases and continue to close more sales, remember blaming aren't take you anyway except throw out the frustration, instead you must believe that you can make a change for oyu and for your family by taking the first step, then take each step from there.

Always Believe in yourself and Live with Passion - yeoh william

Human Imperfection

We all say it: "I'm only human," and yet we continually get down on ourselves for making mistakes. So what exactly is human perfection and why are we both comforted by it and constantly trying to make it disappear?

Is human imperfection simply the number of mistakes made, size of the mistake or is it really the lesson that's important? As children we learn by making mistakes. We touch a hot stove and remember not to do it again or we go through experiences with different people and learn from those mistakes how to react in certain situations.

The size of the mistake or impact on our life tends to leave different impressions on each of us that cause us to react or think in a certain way whenever we encounter these situations again. It can be as simple as looking both ways before crossing to being terrified every time you cross the street, depending on the experiences or mistakes each of us have gone through and learned from. The mistakes we've made have a profound effect on each of us, but do we have to live our lives as if we are defined by our mistakes?

Of course not, but people do it everyday. They blame themselves for things they have no control over and are their own jury and executioner when deciding who's to blame for the mistakes in life. How we learn from our mistakes is what's really important and is the real lesson behind our human imperfection. Human imperfection may ruin our idealized image we have of ourselves, but that's the beauty of each lesson we learn in life. Our mistakes are what make each of us a more complete individual as long as we take the time to learn from our mistakes. No matter how unfair the lesson may seem, we all can become stronger individuals who are more confident and know the importance of self love by embracing our human imperfection instead of beating ourselves down all the time.

Accepting our fault's involves not only learning the lesson but also making an effort to become a better person by acting on your thoughts of bettering oneself once the lesson has been learned. It's one thing to say you'll change and quite another to actually follow through, but as long as you are making an honest effort and doing your best you really have nothing to feel guilty about when mistakes happen. It also helps to remember that our mistakes and how we handle them also has an effect on others around us, both our close friends and family and people we may not know that well. Being compassionate to others is just as important as self love and respect towards our own selves during times of trial.

Another important part of going through life where mistakes are bound to happen is learning to listen to your inner voice. It will help guide you through life's lessons and tough times while you are evolving into the beautiful person you are meant to become. Listen closely and try different techniques to quiet the constant chatter in your mind. For example: going for a walk, exercising, yoga, meditation, even a quiet bath at home can be considered time to ease your mind and find the answers you need to help solve a problem or fix a mistake.

You can always count on mistakes being made as we are always learning something new and continually evolving throughout our lifetimes. This is one of the few constants we will experience during our lives. Why spend it tormenting yourself over mistakes that are bound to happen anyways? So try embracing your human imperfection and realize that it is also what makes all of us unique individuals. Most importantly remember to be gentle with yourself and remember you're only human after all :-)

Fire inside your heart

What gets you out of bed everyday? Do you spring up as soon as the alarm clock (or opportunity clock as Zig Ziglar calls it) goes off? Do you lie there for 10 minutes dreading the day ahead and wishing you were still asleep? Or do you hit snooze button, fall back asleep and grab as long as you can?

I believe you can tell a lot about a person and their habits by what they do first thing in the morning. I also believe that this can determine your chance of success when embarking on a fat loss regime.

The key to self motivation is something I like to call "the fire inside". If you get up straight away, with enthusiasm, and without hesitating, the chances are you're already on the road to being where you want to be.

If you are in the right frame of mind first thing in the morning as soon as you get up, the day seems to sail along a lot more smoother than it otherwise would have if you doze in and crumble about everything you have to do on that particular day.

Starting off the day in the right frame of mind is one of the things that will shape your positive mindset. Self Motivation will be something that will become natural for you each day.
The fire inside starts with doing the little things right. Once achieved, you cross them off your list and then turning them into bigger things along the way.

People have different reasons for their fitness regimes. Ranging from anything to fat loss, stress relief, sports performance to being the best parent they can possibly be. There has to be a reason to drive you to put in the hard work.

Whatever the goal, the one thing every successful person has is a piece of paper with their goals firmly written down.

The fire inside, or self motivation, will not let them just amble through life without one. It would be like driving in an unfamiliar town without a map. You would be wasting precious time.
How can anybody hope to achieve some vague goal when there is no concrete plan? It just simply will not happen.

So, what should you do? First step is to grab a pen and write down what you want to achieve.
It is okay to have 3-5 goals but you need to prioritise them so you have direction. Start with the most important thing to you and work your way down the list.

Your next step is to put the list somewhere prominent so that you can see it numerous times everyday.

You need to read and re-read this over and over again, so your subconscious mind knows exactly what your main focus is.

Finally, go ahead and put the steps into place to make it happen. Write down 3 of your goals now. Make 1 a short term goal and make 1 a long term goal. The other is up to you to decide.

Now you have to work out how am I going to make these goals happen? Write down your how to steps for each of your above goals.

The simple formula to make all this happen is the following three words.

See. Believe. Achieve