HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR

Wishing all of you happy chinese new year, may all dreams come true and stay prosperous. Gong Xi Fa Cai.

Marriage Cycle

Those who are already married may take it as a guide to improve your marriage & relationship ...DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How do I know if I married the right person?'I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.Here's the answer.EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades....... .It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marrythe right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria ofthe love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someoneelse. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation afew years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor oflove.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.

You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specificthings you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with yourmarriage..Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exerciseprogram makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make love'. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'.. . Not just a feeling. Remember this always:'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide whoyou let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

New Year once again...

Its 2009, and time is clicking very fast and time for everybody to make a new resolution, new goals, new dream and so much more that everyhope hope to achieve. Looking back, 2008 is very memorable and time to wake up for myself. I enjoyed some "success" for past 2 years and achieve some results in my career but i enjoyed it when i thought i have already succeeded.

Thus, already battle the war alone for past 6 years, i felt i had much more to achieve and in quick time, can't afford to let time past without achieving anything. i had my dad to be my mentor and gosh, its tough at the begginning, had to adjust myself and i learn not only in business but how to handle myself well.


It is fun to work together with him who are damn passionate in his career and i had to salute him. I will deliver my utmost dedication, delegation, passion, to my career. To my beloved wife, you sacrifice alot for me for past year and not to disrespect others, not much women out there do what you do for me, i know is not enough but to deliver the kind of results that bring more wealth and values only the way to reward. I will work damn hard and smart to ensure we had better lives this year, nothing less can be accepted.


Mom, i will become good boy under dad guidance, don't worry as u got works need to do from now on rather than stay at home, stay healthy..i love you.


Hey, gone are the past, now look forward and i had make my New Year Must Achieve Resolution..


This afternoon, while had lunch with colleague, i make a commitment with my ever passionate colleague, Cheng Cheng, to become 2009 MRDT member. I had talk enough but to prove myself i can step to another level in my career. During past days, i want to do but not enough action, always stop and go and wasted lots of time. This morning, Unit Manager, Lee Lai Ling had given me the 2009 MDRT production goals and it is RM 460,000 FYP. Hereby, i accepted the challenge from Cheng Cheng to become MDRT.


Next, i would like to have my car in the second half of the year, earlier i had placed booking for 2.4V Toyota Camry but later withdraw after accepting my dad advice. Now, here is my dream car..


Dad, i remember the words you said to me while we are in Kuching, i wil work hand in hand with you and for you to see own son to ride his way to the top podium to receive the Champion trophy for the year 2009. Nothing is impossible if we are determined to succeed.


Then, before the year end, will have a simple yet memorable wedding dinner that you won't forget. Don't worry, if i achieve what im suppose to achieved this year, my dad won't object as long as we don't waste unneccesary money. Then, you can have all the freedom at new home ok.



Happy New Year to my millionaire partner, Raymond, no more countdown ok, no more kiki lala, shared the same dream together and achieve our success within one year..



Also not to forget my other millionaire partners, Alex, Julia, Siti, Chang, Justina, Jasmine, Pauline, my beloved parents, best wishes to everybody.

Management Lesson

What you plant is what you reap.

A successful business man was growing old andknew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business. Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children,he decided to do something different. He called all the youngexecutives in his company together.He said, 'It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO.I have decided to choose one of you. 'The young executives wereshocked, but the boss continued. 'I am going to give each oneof you a SEED today - one very special SEED. I want you to plantthe seed, water it, and come back here one year from today withwhat you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will thenjudge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will bethe next CEO.'One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others,received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife thestory. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he plantedthe seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it hadgrown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives beganto talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow. Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.

Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing. By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn't havea plant and he felt like a failure.Six months went by -- still nothing in Jim's pot. He just knew hehad killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, buthe had nothing. Jim didn't say anything to his colleagues, however.He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil - He so wanted theseed to grow.A year finally went by and all the young executives of the companybrought their plants to the CEO for inspection.Jim told his wife that he wasn't going to take an empty pot.But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sickto his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing momentof his life, but he knew his wife was right. He took his empty potto the board room.

When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the varietyof plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful --in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor andmany of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his youngexecutives.Jim just tried to hide in the back. 'My, what great plants, trees,and flowers you have grown,' said the CEO. 'Today one of you willbe appointed the next CEO!'All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room withhis empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him tothe front. Jim was terrified. He thought, 'The CEO knows I'm afailure! Maybe he will have me fired!'

When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happenedto his seed - Jim told him the story. The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim,and then announced to the young executives, 'Behold your nextChief Executive Officer! His name is Jim!' Jim couldn't believe it. Jim couldn't even growhis seed.'How could he be the new CEO?' the others said.Then the CEO said, 'One year ago today, I gave everyone in thisroom a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it,and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds;they were dead - it was not possible for them to grow.

All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants andflowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, yousubstituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was theonly one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot withmy seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the newChief Executive Officer!'

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation
* If you plant faith in GOD, you will reap a harvestSo, be careful what you plant now;it will determine what you will reap later.

'Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back'